My DD is 5, and attends a small, private preschool (she's been there for almost 3 months). Her teacher seems like a nice enough woman, but we have some cultural differences (she is from India, I am from a "liberal" city in the NW, and I'm pretty feminist), so that may or may not have anything to do with the following issue:
This morning, on our way to do some shopping, DD was talking about a boy who drew her a picture. She was talking about his name and all of the things this boy says and does, rambling on, then she says-
"Mrs.______ told us to call (little boy) a girl. I don't know what he did, but he must have done a 'girl thing', because she told us to call him a girl."
I tried not to overreact, and asked under what circumstances the teacher encouraged the students to call him a girl? She does not know, but she said that all of the kids laughed at the boy.
She then told me that even the little boy's "best friend" laughed, causing the little boy to claim that they are "not best friends anymore" because of it.
I am absolutely livid. As far as I am concerned, unless this boy came out as being transgendered, there is no reason on God's green earth why this teacher should be encouraging the other students to call him a girl.
#1, I think using status as a female as an insult is disgusting and offensive to me, and I will not have my daughter being taught that girls are the lesser. It is NOT okay to say someone "throws like a girl" or "hits like a girl", etc.
#2, I feel this teacher was encouraging bullying! Telling her class, which is around a dozen students, to hurt the feelings of another student?
We're leaving on vacation tomorrow, but I will be contacting the director as soon as I get back. My only problem is that I have already had to have a meeting already, over one of the aids telling my daughter that her parents will "get over it" (regarding incorrect sunblock application, which really wasn't a big deal, but telling DD "you parents will get over it" really upset her for some reason, and totally undermined our authority).
So, any advice on how to approach this situation would be greatly appreciated. I feel like not everyone has the same views as me, and the director (and owner, if I can get that far up the ladder) may not see it as that big of a deal.
[This message edited by Want2help at 6:46 PM, June 14th (Saturday)]
DDay 6/07 (immediately separated)
His OC born 2008/Adopted 2014
My Affair: 2015
Status: trying to pick up the pieces.