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JustOneMoreDay posted 6/15/2014 09:40 AM

So WS is super weepy today and also somewhat pouty. I know he is really feeling shame over what he has done to his family and how it has hurt his children but it comes across as somewhat poor me. It's aggravating me. Does that make me a bad person?

The kids all got him gifts. We planned on going for a picnic but the weather isn't cooperating. We have all asked him what he would like to do today to no avail. Just pouting or that's how I am seeing it. It's likely more shame than anything.

Do I leave him to his misery? Keep trying to get him to do something?

I was diagnosed with a STD this week. I'm not feeling very charitable. He took that hard. However, I have had a super stressful and emotional couple of days and he has not stepped up.

Dagny07 posted 6/15/2014 09:54 AM

Humph. Since he seems unable to "grow a pair", maybe you should've gotten him some for Father's Day.

devistatedmom posted 6/15/2014 09:56 AM

No, you don't keep trying to get him to do something. He got gifts from the kids. You asked what he wants to do, he won't answer. You have done your part.

Make your picnic foods and set them up on a blanket in the living room for the kids. Try to relax a little and enjoy the indoor picnic with your kids. He can either join you all, or sit pouting in the corner.

identitylost posted 6/15/2014 09:56 AM

I don't think it makes you a bad person; especially after your STD diagnosis this week (sorry).

I'd tell him, away from your kids, what you are feeling and remind him that this day is just as much about allowing your children to show their appreciation to him as it is for him receiving that appreciation. Your kids are apt to feel that they did something wrong if he is going to boohoo the whole day.

If he can't pull it together, you do something fun with the kids. He made his bed....

JustOneMoreDay posted 6/15/2014 10:04 AM

Thanks everyone.

He is sad because he says he has hurt his children. Trouble is, when he is sad, he is irritable. He ruined my birthday by texting the ow the entire time. Mother's Day was a pain filled emotional day. I just wanted him to show some greatfulness especially considering this week.

inshockandhurt posted 6/15/2014 10:15 AM

Tell him to man up and stop being such a baby. He hurt his kids? Then it's time to stop hurting them. Just like someone else said, Father's Day is just as much about the kids as it is about the Father and acting like a child isn't being a good Father.

inshockandhurt posted 6/15/2014 10:16 AM

Hugs, by the way JOMD, holidays are hard.

sparklezombie posted 6/15/2014 18:19 PM

I say give him a good junk punch for the STD and then let him pout by himself until he finds his big girl panties