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rollerager posted 6/15/2014 18:36 PM

Everything but a couple of boxes and the kid's toys are out of the apartment. I have went through my fair share of shock to my body today, but I know it will all be okay.

I'm just so annoyed and angered that he still continues to lie about stuff he doesn't not even need to lie about anymore.

I can't wait until the day I find somebody who treats me and my children right. I know it will probably be a good long while but it will be worth it.

LeftOutintheCold posted 6/15/2014 19:22 PM

(((rollerager))) Thoughts of strength to you. I know it's not easy.

jo2love posted 6/15/2014 19:24 PM

(((rollerager)))

rollerager posted 6/15/2014 19:31 PM

Thank you, I think having the two babies makes it harder but we will make it.

OakStreet posted 6/15/2014 19:32 PM

((rollercoaster))
Also sending strength.

justinpaintoday posted 6/15/2014 20:15 PM

Get through today. Thats all. U can work on tommorrow when it gets here. Just get through today.

movingforward777 posted 6/15/2014 20:32 PM

The hardest thing about change is the unknown. Right now you need to look after yourself and your babies. So what if you don't get things unpacked and put away right away....take your time, make sure you eat, sleep, drink water, get out for a little exercise, and focus on your kids.
There is nothing you can do about the lies he tells you....his head is so far up his ass, in the fog that he simply lies to "give you and answer and shut you up".....don't let him destroy you.
A good friend of mine told me "the best revenge is to do well"....I always made sure I looked great, had my hair/makeup done, and took advantage of the weight I lost (due to the infidelity diet) when I had to see him....don't give him the satisfaction of seeing you broken down. I'm not saying don't cry, that is a normal thing to do, but it's time for the 180....do not let him see it happen...
Reach out to friends/family for help with the kids so you get a break/rest, and make him live up to his financial responsiblities. Have you seen a lawyer yet? Keep the communication between you strictly about the kids.
Hang in there sweetie....you will get through this...come to SI often, post lots...you will get lots of love, support and great advice here from people who do understand because they have either been there, or are there with you.....HUGS

rollerager posted 6/15/2014 21:21 PM

Thank you. We've been broken up for 3 weeks but it seems more official now that I've gotten everything moved out. I am staying with my mom currently and I don't have to deal with a divorce because we were not married.

It is hard not to get upset around him but really the only time I have majorly seen him is while moving the stuff. He hasn't seemed too interested in taking the kids on the weekends but he has taken them for a couple of hours here and there.

I feel a lot of relief but at the same time a lot of anger is still bubbling in me. Just focusing on each day helps though.

brkn_heartd posted 6/15/2014 21:42 PM

Sending support your way, for tonight, tomorrow and the rest of the week! It is a long road, but I think the next few days you will need that extra support.
Take care of yourself.

SadInNC posted 6/15/2014 21:48 PM

Hi rollerager. Sending you strength! Remember that you will be better off without the constant lying in your life. You are free of that now

Goodness, light and TRUTH are in your future!

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