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Phoenix1 posted 6/15/2014 20:36 PM

It is inevitable, I know that, and better to get it over with than drag it out. I am talking about the fact that I am heading out of state for mandated training that all our state affiliates are required to attend. That means colleagues from all 50 states that I have worked with for almost five years, so we know each other well. I am dreading it because it is the first business trip/interaction with these fine folks since the death of DS, bro, and SIL. Word has obviously spread since then. They will all be well-meaning, and I get that. But I am going to be inundated with the well-meaning "sorry for your loss" comments over the next week. My healing is very fragile right now, and I just don't know if I am mentally ready for the bombardment. One or two, sure, but it is going to be much more than that.

I am trying to prepare myself, and bring a level of detachment to get myself through it, but I am not looking forward to the week because of it...

purplejacket4 posted 6/15/2014 22:41 PM

Hugs to you and practice a simple , "thank you, I appreciate it." You might have a couple of topics in your back pocket to change the conversation to.

nowiknow23 posted 6/15/2014 22:48 PM

Is there a colleague you're close to that could help you out by being a shield/wingperson? Someone you could lean on a bit if needed?

((((Phoenix)))) Sending you strength for the trip, honey.

yewtree posted 6/16/2014 00:18 AM

Is there someone who can give everyone a heads up to avoid the subject? Maybe that person can tell the group that you know they mean well, and that you appreciate their concern, but what you really need is to focus on the training.

Would anybody step up and say that for you?

must be time for bed... I think it makes more sense now.

[This message edited by yewtree at 12:21 AM, June 16th (Monday)]

authenticnow posted 6/16/2014 05:37 AM

(((Phoenix1))) I'll be sending good thoughts your way, Phoenix.