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Phoenix1 (original poster member #38928) posted at 2:36 AM on Monday, June 16th, 2014
It is inevitable, I know that, and better to get it over with than drag it out. I am talking about the fact that I am heading out of state for mandated training that all our state affiliates are required to attend. That means colleagues from all 50 states that I have worked with for almost five years, so we know each other well. I am dreading it because it is the first business trip/interaction with these fine folks since the death of DS, bro, and SIL. Word has obviously spread since then. They will all be well-meaning, and I get that. But I am going to be inundated with the well-meaning "sorry for your loss" comments over the next week. My healing is very fragile right now, and I just don't know if I am mentally ready for the bombardment. One or two, sure, but it is going to be much more than that.
I am trying to prepare myself, and bring a level of detachment to get myself through it, but I am not looking forward to the week because of it...
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purplejacket4 ( member #34262) posted at 4:41 AM on Monday, June 16th, 2014
Hugs to you and practice a simple , "thank you, I appreciate it." You might have a couple of topics in your back pocket to change the conversation to.
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Her: FWS 53 (both family med MDs; together 23 years)
OW: who cares (PhD)
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nowiknow23 ( member #33226) posted at 4:48 AM on Monday, June 16th, 2014
Is there a colleague you're close to that could help you out by being a shield/wingperson? Someone you could lean on a bit if needed?
((((Phoenix)))) Sending you strength for the trip, honey.
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yewtree ( member #16671) posted at 6:18 AM on Monday, June 16th, 2014
Is there someone who can give everyone a heads up to avoid the subject? Maybe that person can tell the group that you know they mean well, and that you appreciate their concern, but what you really need is to focus on the training.
Would anybody step up and say that for you?
must be time for bed... I think it makes more sense now.
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authenticnow ( member #16024) posted at 11:37 AM on Monday, June 16th, 2014
(((Phoenix1))) I'll be sending good thoughts your way, Phoenix.
DS, you are forever in my heart. Thank you for sharing your beautiful spirit with me. I will always try to live by the example you have set. I love you and miss you every day and am sorry you had to go so soon, it just doesn't seem fair.
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