We were out on a motorcycle ride with a few of WH’s friends. I was happy that he planned it in a way that included me. The day was a good one in the beginning, riding in the back roads around some lakes in the area. We stopped for a break. While I was in the bathroom it was decided they would drive to an old historical covered bridge in our area. I wondered whose idea that was.
We had been to the bridge a few times in past, I always enjoyed it, until I found out WH had taken his AP there. I haven’t been back since. It sucked being there again. I spent half the time in the bathroom wishing I was someplace else. It appeared like WH didn’t have a clue.
The question kept bugging me, so later in the evening as we were going to bed, I asked “Who had the idea to go to the covered bridge?” WH said “None of them had ever been there before, so I thought it would be a cool place to take them. Was that a problem?”
Since bedtime discussions are never productive I just told him “It wasn’t my favorite place to go” & left it alone.
I wanted to say, yeah it was a cool place to take them, but did you even consider how I would feel? I’m angry that you took a place I enjoyed going to and turned it into a place of pain for me. Then put me in a position where I could go along there, out you in front of your friends explaining why I didn’t want to go, or look like a controlling bitch suggesting we go someplace different after the decision was already made.
So here I am wondering .….. Am I too sensitive? Is he just that insensitive? Or is he twisting the knife again? Is he trying to push me to the point of no return, does he just not get it or am I just feeling sorry for myself?