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Lackingcourage posted 6/16/2014 17:25 PM

I know I'm doing the right thing. I know he's not going to change. I finally officially filed for divorce last Thursday. Then today, a friend of mine told me that a mutual friend of ours confided in her that WS propositioned her about having an affair some time back. She declined since she knew he was married. I don't know if WS and mutual friend are still "good friends" or if she cut it off. I probably won't ask her since she didn't confide in me that WH proposed this. I was going to just let it go, but WH happened to text me about bringing something by the house shortly after I learned this news and asked if it was ok. I replied that since I just found out about yet another woman, it was probably better if he not get anywhere near me at that moment. More excuses from him, "She must have misunderstood, I struggled with how to communicate about our unhealthy marriage, blah, blah, blah." Oh, and last week I learned that most recent AP has been telling people that happen to know us about their affair(and I'm sure telling them how awful I was as a wife). So, why do I let it get to me? I have filed. I was feeling so strong last week after I did that. I insisted on being the petitioner, rather than having him be a joint petitioner, which is what he wanted. Now, I feel like I'm back at square one. AND we have to deal with some details related to the house and the dog in the next couple of days, and I want nothing to do with him. Do these little insults ever stop?

lovehonorcherish posted 6/16/2014 20:13 PM

I've actually had to tell people not to pass information on to me about my stbxh and what he and the AP are doing. It just hurts me too much and I am truly better off not knowing. I have all the details that I need about the two of them...two lying, cheating, morally challenged, selfish cowards who have destroyed two marriages in order to be together. I know from experience what you're going through but try to let it go and focus on yourself and rebuilding your life. You will never have a moments peace otherwise. Take care!

LeftOutintheCold posted 6/16/2014 20:53 PM

I'm of the same mind frame as lovehonorcherish. There is no use in learning new things about the WH - it just hurts you more.

I have all the details that I need about the two of them...two lying, cheating, morally challenged, selfish cowards who have destroyed two marriages in order to be together.

^^^I have literally said just about this same thing to friends/family members who thought they were being helpful.

Focus on yourself. Many thoughts of strength to you!!

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