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Father-in-law just had a heart attack

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knockeddown posted 6/16/2014 21:08 PM

When I found out (via text from STBXW), I responded, "Oh, God. I will keep him in my prayers."

Is that enough? He was a part of my life for 9 years. How do I navigate this tough terrain and maintain NC. FIL has not reached out to me since everything happened some 3 months ago.

nowiknow23 posted 6/16/2014 21:11 PM

((((knockeddown)))) I'm so sorry. This is hard stuff and there's no right answer here. I think you have to do what feels right given your relationship (past and current) with your FIL.

courageous posted 6/16/2014 21:16 PM

that's rough! I had a good relationship with my mil and they didn't reach out to me afterwards either. If you do decide to reach out be prepared for rejection. Do what you feel you can live with. If you feel you will regret never contacting him, then contact him.

((knockeddown))

gonnabe2016 posted 6/16/2014 21:20 PM

What you did is enough, for now.

Don't know what your placement schedule is, but you could offer to take your DD more than *scheduled* if your stbxw needs to be with her dad.

knockeddown posted 6/16/2014 21:36 PM

nowiknow23 - thanks. Unfortunately I know there is no right answer. I feel angry at him because he hasn't reached out to me, but at the same time I feel so sad for him that he is going through this.

courageous - It's amazing how you can have such a good relationship with your in-laws and then they just abandon you, isn't it? I think it may have to do with her reporting how "terrible" of a husband I was, etc so that she can justify her actions. I have to think on whether or not I could live without contacting him.

gonnabe2016 - thanks for the advice on keeping my DD more. I offered that, but it's complicated because STBXW is a teacher and is off this summer. Therefore, she keeps DD with her all day.

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