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gonnabe2016 posted 6/16/2014 21:13 PM

I'm "shaking him down for his income."

I need to "leave his future earnings alone".

I am not the victim in this scenario. (uh....yea, ok, mr. mask-wearing serial cheater )

He hopes that I get to see what it's like to start with nothing and have to EARN my own money.

Monster is pissed about how much this D is costing. His L charges over $500/hr and does business an hour away from us. So anytime the guy has to come to any type of D event in our area -- he's collecting over $1000 JUST to fucking drive out here. (I really don't believe he's all that upset about it because he's said that he's fine with burning through all of our money on the divorce because he'll just make more to replace it and "what are you gonna do when the money's gone?")

I'm REALLY not liking him very much at this moment......

nowiknow23 posted 6/16/2014 21:23 PM

Gonna - I solemnly swear, when (note - not if, WHEN) this is all over, I'm buying the first round.

This guy.

LifeIsBroken posted 6/16/2014 21:26 PM

I will never understand how this person who vows to love, cherish, honor…. does the opposite when D proceedings begin. How can you live with someone for years, love & share yourself with that person, have children with that person then, once the A brings on the D, the cheater becomes so hateful and vindictive. What the hell is wrong with people ????

homewrecked2011 posted 6/16/2014 21:26 PM

You're getting to him, he's not getting his way, that's why he's acting like a 2 year old.

just keep being strong. Shields up, NC if you can.

courageous posted 6/16/2014 21:26 PM

What a jerk!!! It's like they read from the same cheaters handbook....act angry about the consequences of their actions and want us to suffer immensely because of it.

It will be over one day. A judge will hopefully see through his behavior.

gonnabe2016 posted 6/16/2014 21:53 PM

As he was bitching about the cost and having to *fund my future life* I responded (2x) that what was happening right now was a consequence of his poor behavior and choices and that if he was upset about it that he needed to go and rant at the guy in the mirror. And I also told him that the divorce laws are in place so that people like him wouldn't be allowed to fuck over people like me (he built our very-successful business on *my* back and now wants to ride off into the sunset with a wave and "see ya" to me).

I will never understand how this person who vows to love, cherish, honor…. does the opposite when D proceedings begin

I know, right? I am totally grace,grace -- you're a cheater, I'm not, so let's just part ways -- FAIRLY and with a head-nod towards what each person brought to the marriage. Nope. NOT Monster. He seems to see me as some type of personal assistant that he's already *paid* for and now thinks that I need to just go about my merry way. WRONG answer, dude.

he's not getting his way,

Yea, this all started because he was wanting to make arrangements to have someone come and get *his* pool table from the house and I told him that he needed to wait on those arrangements because the pool table wasn't *his*.

I solemnly swear, when (note - not if, WHEN) this is all over

People actually GET divorced??????
I have a trial date set for sometime in mid-August, but I'm betting that it's going to get pushed out because of his obstinance regarding disclosure. The f'n guy is wandering through life right now as if he's a divorced guy instead of a *getting divorced* guy.

To say that I'm irritated is an understatement....

[This message edited by gonnabe2016 at 9:56 PM, June 16th (Monday)]

SBB posted 6/16/2014 22:11 PM

Here... let me play you the worlds smallest violin.

Shaking him down? Are people still saying that outside of mob movies?

You don't need to do a motherfucking thing. If the law says you might be entitled to it you go for it.

Now if we had a time machine and you could rewind the last 20 years I'd be glad to have you earn your own money - money you would have to share with him if the roles were reversed even if he was still the cheater. Actually if we had a time machine he would never be in your life.

There is no victim here. There is due course.

Do you have his remark about burning through he money in writing? The sad clown milked me dry too for the same reason. We didn't have a lot to start with as he had been burning money for years and we don't have SS here and CS is a joke. But he is still pissed off that he has to pay me 600 p/m in CS out of his $250k+ income.

Sheesh. Why does he think you still give a flying fuck? I hope you're not responding to this drivel.

Whiney whine whine. Talk to your L, dude. You don't pay me to listen to you whine like a little bitch and as I'm not your wife anymore I don't have to.

Let him argue that you ARE still his wife. That would be a hoot!!

Crickets. Skinny little crickets for him.

[This message edited by SBB at 10:14 PM, June 16th (Monday)]

gonnabe2016 posted 6/16/2014 22:24 PM

Do you have his remark about burning through he money in writing?

Yep.

rewind the last 20 years I'd be glad to have you earn your own money - money you would have to share with him if the roles were reversed even if he was still the cheater.

Another yep.
The sociopathic guy kept me in a gilded cage. I always wanted to do *something* with my life. I was totally NOT one of the girls that grew up looking for a guy to take care of her. I was constantly wanting to go back to school and have a career of my own -- especially when I saw the huge discrepancy in our SS statements that are mailed out every year. BUT NO. HE proclaimed that it didn't matter because *he* would always "take care of me".

I couldn't be let out of the *cage* because I might find someone taller or nicer than him that I would run off with .......

gonnabe2016 posted 6/16/2014 22:57 PM

.....and PS. Monster considers you all to be *internet loons*.


(I ended up just giving him :rolly eyes: to his nonsense and he told me that only the internet loons were *down* with that (paraphrasing)).

tired girl posted 6/16/2014 22:58 PM

Hey gonna! Sorry to hear that this guy is still trying to give you brain damage by having to deal with this mind numbing bs.

These NPD's are all the same I swear!

Hope you are doing great other than this

Nature_Girl posted 6/16/2014 23:19 PM

What a punk. "Internet loons" is the best he's got? What, that's supposed to insult me? Oh dude, you're a lightweight. Go play in the toddler park.

PurpleRose posted 6/16/2014 23:36 PM

I'll take being an Internet Loon over a sociopathic cheater any day of the week, thankyouverymuchloser.

nowiknow23 posted 6/17/2014 00:07 AM

SBB posted 6/17/2014 00:27 AM

I'll take being an Internet Loon over a sociopathic cheater any day of the week, thankyouverymuchloser.

I'm still a rock to your scissors, loser. Loon or not.

I'll have you all know I'm a loon IRL too.

Wannabe deadbeat. Does he not know grown ups deal with his stuff via their Ls not by throwing their toys out of the cot? As if you're going to say: "Oh OK - this upsets you so I won't pursue what I'm entitled to."

Those days are over. Go deal.

ETA whatever you get is your return on your investment in his career - y'know, the investment you were urged/encouraged to not make on your own. It's a pretty simple concept, really.

[This message edited by SBB at 12:29 AM, June 17th (Tuesday)]

gonnabe2016 posted 6/17/2014 00:44 AM

so I won't pursue what I'm entitled to

I 'splained this to him a while back when he wouldn't stop with calling me a "hypocrite."

During the marriage, I incessantly told him that as long as we had enough money to pay the bills, we were fine. I even referenced that Justin Bieber song (As long as you love me). I was tired of him traveling all the time and wanted him to put the *family* first and stop with his "I'm the king of the world" egotistical bullshit.

Anyway. His deluded mind twisted my message all up and for a long time I was a *hypocrite* because I "always said I wasn't about the money", but *now* (in D-land) I am.
I had to explain to him that my reference to that dumb Bieber song did NOT mean that I was going to give up any of my rights in a divorce situation.

He's just so fucking stupid.....

stronger08 posted 6/17/2014 03:40 AM

Fuck that guy !!!!!!! Stop listening to him. Its simply just another textbook WS response to consequences for their actions. And God forbid a WS accepts that their behaviors brought them to this place. He got himself a high paid attorney to screw you over in the first place. Now he is pissed that its costing him so much. Well boo fucking hoo. Shit, after that little rant I'd go after everything, including the kitchen sink.

SBB posted 6/17/2014 05:51 AM

Did he just try to invoke Justin Bieber as a legal precedent? I assume Biebs wasn't playing during your wedding vows during the whole 'not fucking other people' part? Perhaps that's why he disregarded it?

You are a hypocrite because you want your portion of assets/income/earning capacity built over he course of your 20 year M? In his mind this is the same as him cheating on you multiple times with multiple women over multiple years?

Wow. Loon meet kettle.

When you were in a relationship with him all you needed was his love and fidelity. He didn't give you either yet expects you to uphold your 'Bieber vow'? Hilarious!!

You are not in a relationship - you no longer want, need or expect his love and fidelity.

Just the money I'm entitled to thanks very much.

Marriage is about love - divorce is about money. Idjat.

Kajem posted 6/17/2014 05:51 AM

(((((((Gonna)))))))

I think you need to upgrade your bitchboots to waders - the shit he spews has got to be getting really deep.

I've got the 2nd round.

I have this mental picture in my head of him being that guy (Mr. Sparkles) on the dance floor at the g2g. All shiny, up on the dance floor putting on a show. believing he's the best thing since sliced bread. - That's the image I have in my head of Sultan.

K

Beyond posted 6/17/2014 08:57 AM

You're not the only shake-down artist, gonna. My BFF's NPDXWH just received a bill for the balance of one of the children's medical tests at a major institution. It was $10. He sent it back to the institution with a note saying that BFF is responsible for all balances; therefore, he was not going to pay it. Then he wrote BFF a nasty-gram telling her to make sure all future bills do not go to him and to stop nickel-and-diming him for everything because she already gets "90 percent of his income" (patently FALSE, btw). All for $10.

Like your STBX, this guy would rather spend thousands of dollars on an attorney, as long as he scorches the Earth behind him.

Because "winning" in his eyes is the most important thing, don'tcha know??

I feel for you, because he will never look in the mirror, as you put it...It's easier to make it all your fault, thereby making HIM the victim.

I will say this: guys like him don't do well at trial. BFF's NPDXWH performed especially poorly, which gave BFF some key "wins." Judges are onto this kind of douche (most of 'em, anyway).

Hang tough. I know how hard it is...

{{{{gonna}}}}

tesla posted 6/17/2014 11:27 AM

Fuck. That. Guy.

What the hell? I know ex-shat thinks I'm a money grubbing whore...you know, because I want him to uphold his financial obligations that he signed up for in the settlement.

Shit, so many of these assholes are cut from the same mould.

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