I just read this article about having acceptance when a job isn't working and that it is okay to walk away. I think this same philosophy applies to a M, so I wanted to share because many BS can view D as a personal failure. This quote from the article highlights why sometimes it is best to walk away .
If you are in a long-term dysfunctional environment, continuing to do the same job and putting up with the same crap is disastrous for you and people who depend on you at work and home.
The problem is that when you try to persevere, you are in survival mode and a personal hell. You just don't care about the quality of your work and results anymore
The idea of being in surviving mode really hit home for me- it was pretty much the majority of M, and now, after being D for two years, I can look back and see that: yes, it was hell. At the time I didn't stop to reflect about how I felt during M because I was so busy just trying to survive. Now, because everything is so much better, I can look back and clearly see just how awful it actually was. Still, it was very very hard for me to walk away. It ultimately took a point where my physical safely was jeopardized for me to move forward with D. I should have walked away sooner.