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LostSamurai posted 6/17/2014 12:46 PM

I am at my IC appointment and I am sure he was suspecting to see both WW and I. After this appointment going to meet with lawyer and file... Moving on sucks even if it is for the best... Supposedly.

MovingUpward posted 6/17/2014 13:10 PM

Stay strong LS. It is hard to imagine things beyond your current feelings. Best of luck to you.

ButterflyGirl posted 6/17/2014 13:12 PM

Sending strength and prayers...

LosferWords posted 6/17/2014 13:13 PM

Hang in there, LS... sending you strength.

still2suspicious posted 6/17/2014 13:15 PM

The first few steps are always the hardest, LS. Knowing you are moving forward, for YOURSELF, is one of the greatest gifts we can give ourselves. It's just some times hard to see at the moment.

We've got your back, lean on us.

Sending strength.

1Faith posted 6/17/2014 13:24 PM

Your SI family is with you in thoughts and prayers.

(((hugs)))

veronique12 posted 6/17/2014 13:29 PM

((LS))

FrmrBH80124 posted 6/17/2014 13:31 PM

Hang in there LS! Better days are ahead! You deserve better. Go out there and get it.

FrmrBH80124 posted 6/17/2014 13:32 PM

Hang in there LS! Better days are ahead! You deserve better. Go out there and get it.

You've given her many chances to change and she hasn't. It's time for you to do what you need to do to move on. We're here for you!

kiki1 posted 6/17/2014 13:33 PM

((((LS))))

cantaccept posted 6/17/2014 13:37 PM

Hi LS,

The one thing I have been realizing lately, even though I am doing what is good for me, it is still really, really hard and it hurts.

I am so sorry that you have to go through this.

You can do it though and you will, with the passing of time, hurt less.

Wishing you peace and confidence.

Can

LostSamurai posted 6/17/2014 15:01 PM

Just got back from MC/IC. He saw she wasn't there and then he gave me his perspective on her.
*Defensive of her affairs
*Very Cold
*Doesn't Understand my pain or cares about my pain
*Very Very Broken

I was sitting there and she texted me and I said I am at IC. She said, why didn't you remind me...

IC said, why didn't she remind herself, in fact why isn't she the one making the appointments and search for counseling.

1Faith posted 6/17/2014 15:05 PM

why didn't she remind herself, in fact why isn't she the one making the appointments and search for counseling

^^^This....

So sorry.

cantaccept posted 6/17/2014 15:08 PM

I am so sorry.

It is another conflict, it helps to have your gut, your perceptions validated, it hurts to have your perceptions and gut validated.

My IC/MC said similar to me about wh the day before dday #2.

You really will get through this. You deserve so much more than this.

(((LS)))

FrmrBH80124 posted 6/17/2014 15:10 PM

IC said, why didn't she remind herself, in fact why isn't she the one making the appointments and search for counseling.


^^^^^^THIS^^^^^^

All you need to know. I'm so sorry LS but better days are ahead!

tushnurse posted 6/17/2014 15:38 PM

(((LS)))

Validation from the IC/MC. That right there has to tell you that you are making the right choice.

It's ok to hurt and grieve. You need to, but you also need to look at this as a positive step forward for you, for your daughter, a for the rest of your life.

You are no longer going to be abused, emotionally beaten down, or given false hope from her.
You can go into the future strong, and healed, and you will never feel the need to tolerate less than you deserve ever again.

It's time for LS to heal, and find happy. It can be done.

(((and strength))))

LostSamurai posted 6/17/2014 16:36 PM

Yea, it is sad to say. He thinks she could change, but for now wants me to work on grieving and making sure the Affairs don't identify me.

ButterflyGirl posted 6/17/2014 16:38 PM

I know it's not funny, but geeeeeeeez. Just how many things is she going to turn into YOUR fault.

One step at a time LS. Just keep moving forward..

needfriendshere posted 6/17/2014 16:38 PM

(((LostSamurai)))
When I read your post, it made me cry - hard. It's been one of those days. My heart goes out to you. Hang in there, my friend. There will be better days ahead for you - I know that with all my being!!

Jrazz posted 6/17/2014 16:41 PM

You can do it. We're all here for you. (((LS)))

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