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dana47 posted 6/18/2014 11:30 AM

I'm coming to fully embrace my affair was all about me. Isn't that what affairs are? Two selfish people giving into addictive behavior and their need for validation?

BrokenButTrying posted 6/18/2014 11:33 AM

Yes. It was nothing to do with your BS, your M or your AP.

Now figure out why.

DrJekyll posted 6/18/2014 11:45 AM

I totally agree. And now the work really starts.

SlowUptake posted 6/18/2014 20:11 PM

Two selfish people giving into addictive behavior and their need for validation?
Careful here, the idea that cheating is an addiction is avoiding responsibility.

pizzalover posted 6/19/2014 13:56 PM

Two selfish people giving into addictive behavior and their need for validation?
Careful here, the idea that cheating is an addiction is avoiding responsibility.

I want to disagree a little bit to this statement. My affair was definitely addictive behavior, but that doesn't mean I am not taking responsibility for my actions. There are many reasons that led me to have an affair, but I felt an addiction to the attention, etc made it hard for me to stop. I believe that the feel good chemicals released keep you wanting more. I don't blame my BH for my behaviors and I don't blame an addiction - I'm just telling you what it felt like for me, that I had a very difficult time stopping.

Sorry if I t/j this thread.

islesguy posted 6/20/2014 12:42 PM

I agree as well. It was completely selfish and all about me.

bionicgal posted 6/20/2014 12:44 PM

Someone here put it more eloquently than me:
"An affair is just two selfish fuc*ers, fuc*ing."

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