A part of me wishes my wife would have just had an affair with an awesome person and she would have run off with him and lived happily ever after. Instead both men were complete losers and now she is back with me lost and confused. Most all my questions are replied with I don't know.
Still between R & D in an in house separation to try not to impact my kindergartner so life is pretty miserable. I have been trying to 180 but she still isn't opening up. I wish I knew 100% what I want, thinking divorce 90% but a decision this important feel like I need to be 100% certain.
i'm so sorry. what a painful day for you.
i have no wise words for you, but wanted to let you know you've been heard.
hugs to you,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,
The truth is, confusing love is likely better than clear indifference.
BH (Me) 49
D-Day Mar 19, 2014
1 year passionate EA/PA, ended by me on d-day.
Attempting to R
One thing helped as I wrestled with the D question.
Did I feel that, when DD7 grew up, I could honestly sit across from her at the table and say, " I did everything I could to save the marriage, and it did not work out".
If I could answer yes, I was free to leave.
Looking at it this way somehow helped me divorce myself from present pain and confusion. It is only one part of the equation, and there is certainly lots more to it than this question, but perhaps something to bounce around.
[This message edited by bent44 at 11:23 PM, June 19th (Thursday)]
I don't know if my chicken will ever become an eagle. But rest assured, I'm going to be a phoenix. Nevermind that I am still in the ashes stage of the process.