that new member ticker at the top of the first page just keeps getting higher and higher.
How do you feel? It may take you a bit to even decide that. Your in for a heck of a ride.
Look through the yellow box on the left side of any of these pages. There is a wealth of information in there to help you decide what to do.
keep posting, keep reading. There is tremendous valuable insight and support here.
take care of yourself, be sure to eat and drink fluids, even if you dont want to. Try to exercise some, so you can sleep, you'll need a clear head.
Get tested for std's, no sex without a condom until you do.
The fact you had a great sex life and he was in love with you, happy marriage etc., makes his actions even more inexcusable.
How in the heck does one fall 'prey' to a masseuse? Anyone over 12 years old knows damned well that you go to these 'professionals' for ONE reason - and it's not a backrub.
Wine has nothing to do with it. Whether you've ever been drunk or not has nothing to do with it. He went to her (or had her comet to his hotel room) knowing damned well what it could lead to (and he had to pay MORE for it, so how does one fall 'prey' when they have to pay more for it?
What a complete crock of crap.
Do you go to the doctor to get the dent in your car repaired? Do you go to the grocery store to buy an evening gown? Same rule applies, here. If you're looking for an innocent massage, you go to a spa, not some dirty massage parlor that's a front for prostitution.
Tell him to own his crap and stop trying to blame something HE CHOSE TO DO on wine or some woman forcing him when he didn't want to.
I honestly think I've heard it all, now.
Good luck to you.
ETA: I'd be willing to bet my right arm this isn't his FIRST rodeo at a massage parlor or having someone come to his hotel room. It's just the first time he had to ADMIT it because his condom broke.
Make sure he gets dragged to the doctor with you for every torture test they can give him, since he was the one who risked your health.
[This message edited by NeverAgain2013 at 2:20 PM, June 20th (Friday)]
I hope you will seek IC for yourself, because this is so traumatic & will be for a while. Please know that you didn't cause this behavior & you certainly can't fix it. He has to be willing to do the very hard work. Focus on you, your health & your kids. Prayers for strength & comfort!
I waved her off, telling her I just wanted to go to sleep. This is the only time that happened to me, and I travel widely in Asia.
That's because you KNEW what she was really selling.
And so did Soccermom's husband. Except he willingly went looking for it - numerous times.
I don't agree that he's a sex addict (I hate how that label is constantly thrown around every time someone displays selfish, sleazy behavior) but I do agree that he's done this many times before.