I sit here reflecting of my journey this past 6 months. I wanted to take a moment to encourage the Newbies and Lurkers you have yet to sign up. You are likely feeling desperate and alone right now. You have been betrayed to the very core by the person you thought you could always trust to have your back. For this I am sorry. I post today with a message of hope. It does get better.
I want to emphasize an important aspect of recovery...action. You may not feel like doing anything other than staying curled in a ball and crying. This is okay for a time. There will come a time soon when you will need to choose stand and fight for the person in the mirror. Regardless of whether your relationship ends in Divorce or Reconciliation, you will need to actively work to heal yourself.
I encourage each of you to seek the support of loved ones. Find a BFF to lean upon who can call you daily for sanity checks. Seek Individual Counseling for you. Navigating through this level of grief is not a natural process nor something you ever would have prepared for. Read read read. There are dozens of books on recovery from infidelity, codependance, self esteem and general survival from emotional trauma. Go to your library and devour them. Every positive smipit is a brick in your stronger new foundation.
I am not sure why I felt compelled to post this but am so grateful for this site when I started. Today I am generally happy. I have learned alot about myself (some good to grow and others bad to work on). I have learned I have better friends and coworkers than I could ever imagine. I learned my faith in God is strong. And I learned that my heart is resilient. I craves the honor of loving and I will let it free to do so again.
Don't let infidelity define you. Let your strength to stand back up when you've been knocked down define you. You have more strength than you know.