Are you still with your bf? I'm asking because I'm wondering why you're uncomfortable getting together with a co-worker, male or female? I would think that working from home can be isolating and I know you struggle sometimes. I'm thinking that maybe socializing with co-workers might be good for you and wondering why it would be inappropriate if you're single.
And if you don't want your personal business out there, you can just share what you choose, keep it light, just have fun!
(I could be totally off base...just a thought )Take up your space (and do it well).
"That's the thing about pain, it demands to be felt."