Do me a favor and next time tell him that unless it's about kids (if you have any) and finances you're not listening. You no longer have the job of listening to his poor widdle feewlings.
Ain't nothing quite as entertaining as watching someone get what's coming to them.
Sounds as though your husband is setting you up for an, "I want to come home" request. I'd rather have my gums set on fire but I'm funny like that.
[This message edited by NeverAgain2013 at 9:25 AM, June 22nd (Sunday)]
If none of these are an issue for you, then his heartbreak is none of your business. He certainly didn't care when your heart was breaking. Yes, AP is a piece of work, but he chose her, not you.
Double Betrayal D-Day 7/26/2013
Two steps forward and one step backwards, is still progress.
Leaning towards leaving, no one deserves this pain.
BW: 42 (me) WH: 40 (him)
DDay 1 - 1/13
DDay2= 7/14 (False Recovery....Discovered CyberA was PA + Broken NC w/email during entire R)
Filed for Divorce 9/9/14:
I can't believe that he would even tell me, like I really care. He tells me things that you would tell a friend and after 28years I think he may miss that part of our m
He is the one that did this, he is the one that brought this all on himself. It is a hard road, that's for sure.
It is hard seeing the one you love making horrible choices, living a life so different from what you believed he wanted. He has become a different person.
Accept that you feel bad for him and let it go. He doesn't deserve your sympathy, at least he doesn't need to know that you have sympathy for him
He has to work this crap out on his own, you cant help him, he cheated and he shouldn't be laying all his problems on you, you cant be his friend right now
My wh did the same thing, moved in with OW the day after I kicked him out, so many similarities to your story. But by him sharing stuff with you, it makes you wonder who the hell he is, why he would put up with the crap from her.
NC has finally worked for me, only took me 2 1/2 years, but it is so freeing and peaceful for me now, I still find out some stuff about them but I don't call or text him anymore, I don't want to hear how unhappy he is, Im not his friend or his mother, I am his wife who he cheated on. I am the one that was tossed aside for some homewrecker.
Feel bad for him, vent here, but as for being his shoulder to cry on, that is only hurting your recovery. It is ok to love him but you cant let him continue to hurt you. He chose to cheat, he doesn't get to have you as a friend to tell his problems to.
I think it's time to call the WHAAAmbulance
...and the WHOREbulance. He's her problem now...she can be his rescuer...good luck with that, OW!
He told me that his whore tried to stop him from coming but that he felt that it was the right thing to do. At least he didn't bring her. We were really afraid hemight have stashed her in his hotel room. He didn't, good for him him otherwise he may have gotten an old fashioned beating.
He has asked our son to meet her already. I know he just looks like my husbandbut it's like seeing an empty soul.