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My First CoDa meeting - I'm a mess but so happy!

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 Jomarion (original poster member #43659) posted at 12:01 AM on Tuesday, June 24th, 2014

Well, I went to my first Co-dependent's Anonymous meeting. The first support group ever in my life! Wow am I a mess! But a happy mess! I can focus on myself to change, and myself is somebody I can do something about! Haven't felt this good in a long long while!

I told my WBF/alcoholic about my meeting,smiling all over, and he had a sneer on his face and looked incredulous when I said he looked angry. BUT I DON'T CARE!!! My stomach was nervous and shaky around him, he was like a time-bomb and I am still sticking to my guns about his leaving because he did not go to a support group like RESPECT as he had promised. He is being very stubborn/childish :'I won't go and you can't make me' type of look. He is trying to get me angry too - keeps asking me if he can turn on and watch the TV, even though I said he does not have to ask - just to try to provoke me - passive aggressive stuff.

Wow! What power it is to detach! Tomorrow I may be a pathetic wreck again, but now I feel great!!!

me:BGF, 54, American immigrant. one son. me and my ex get along great, the most amicable split imaginable!
him:WBF,43, Polish immigrant
together since 2006,
DDay:October28,2009,after his 3 teen kids push him to cheat with OW.
5 betrayed me

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yearsofpain25 ( member #42012) posted at 1:00 AM on Tuesday, June 24th, 2014

Fantastic Jomarion! You should be proud. Keep it up.

"I remind myself of this. I am a survivor. I have taken all this world has dished out and am still here. So there is no reason to be afraid. Whatever happens, I will survive. So now onto living. It is time for me to thrive." - DrJekyll

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imagoodwitch ( member #23375) posted at 2:15 AM on Tuesday, June 24th, 2014

It is a great feeling when you don't give a hoot if they are mad or not.

Stick with it! Every day it gets easier.

Ordinary average everyday sane psycho super goddess

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