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User Topic: Should ws tell his boss
♀ 43691
Member # 43691
Default  Posted: 10:41 AM, June 24th (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I sit here sick....just thinking about this horrible situation I am in all because of him. Today, day 14, he tells me he is going to tell his boss about his online cheating, sexting, etc. says it may help him. I feel furious because I feel it is a personal issue that we are dealing with. He does go to ic, so I feel that is his time to talk. Anyway, I am angry again, just another disappointment. He has always shared stuff with other people about our lives, personal stuff, but this time it is really getting me mad. I tried emailing him to tell him not to tell him, but I assume he has already done so. He says he can explain now why he won't have email on his phone too. At this moment I just feel extreme hate towards him.

Posts: 58 | Registered: Jun 2014
♂ 43075
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Default  Posted: 11:29 AM, June 24th (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

What a plan if he wants to get fired or at a minimum put under he microscope at work regarding computer use. Unless he works at a very small place, most business places have clear and strict rules,prohibiting using company computer for personal reasons, and most expressly forbid using it for sexually-related purposes. Companies don't want to get sued for sexual harassment, you know.

Maybe the boss is some sort of voyeur type with ho gets off hearing stuff like this. But I doubt it, and doubt that WH would know that information.

Tell him to go to a Catholic Church and enter the confessional,if he's hell bent on telling somebody.

It may help him? Help him what,,exactly? Look like a perv to his boss? Help get him fired?

[This message edited by Schadenfreude at 11:30 AM, June 24th (Tuesday)]

Posts: 892 | Registered: Apr 2014 | From: Midwest
♀ 43691
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Default  Posted: 12:04 PM, June 24th (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

He has worked their for a long time. So. I guess he feels somewhat close to his boss, it is a small company. I truly think he wants someone to say it's okay and your sick and blah blah blah. He has always had issues with boundaries and never understands what is appropriate to share. People at his job have had personal issues, but my ws has never been told what they were. I am not sure what he expects to gain from this.

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♀ 38121
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Default  Posted: 12:26 PM, June 24th (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Ugh. He's quite the drama queen.

Don't be surprised when a Dr. Phil staffer calls you to tell you he wrote to the show and they'd like to have you both on so you can air your dirty laundry for the world to hear.

Is bitch-slapping illegal in your state/country?

[This message edited by NeverAgain2013 at 12:27 PM, June 24th (Tuesday)]

Be careful - that 'knight in shining armor' may very well be nothing more than an assclown wrapped in tin foil.
ME: 50+ years old and cute as a button :-)
Ex-WBF: Just a lying, cheating, gravy-sucking pig - and I left him in 2012.

Posts: 6327 | Registered: Jan 2013 | From: USA
♀ 43691
Member # 43691
Default  Posted: 12:56 PM, June 24th (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Never again2012.....thanks, that put a smile on my face!

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♀ 36146
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Default  Posted: 8:07 PM, June 24th (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

There's no good reason for him to do this. It's a continued selfish entitlement attitude. He should be going exactly what you want and need. Nothing more.

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♀ 38975
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Default  Posted: 5:36 PM, June 25th (Wednesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

You are still so early in this he needs to respect and honor you and your feelings first and foremost.

For any chance of R - he needs to stop making this about HIM and about YOU and your healing. Period.

If he is disregarding your feelings then he's not committed to you regardless of how irrational he might find them.

I am sure you didn't find anything about the A rational did you?

It's time he redirect his focus to YOU or face the consequences.

You call the shots. Fight for you.

Good luck

Sometimes my life feels like a test I didn't study for

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