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So, I'm 2 yrs out an this is a constant cycle. The week before my period, I get severely depressed n angry about the A. It's so bad I can barely function. Once I start, I'm fine again and R goes well. Anyone else go through this? Is there anything I can do? I don't want to take antidepressants daily but is there something I can take just for that week? Anything herbal? Thanks!

I take Lexapro for a couple days when I feel I'm going to have it. My body is sensitive to this medication and it works in a couple days. So I take about three a month...

Yes! I go through the same thing month after month though my depression lasts through my period. And then I am fine.

It's awful :(

Four years out..and every month, for a few days, I am PISSED...sad..weepy...and PISSED.

I've learned that during this time I just need to stay busy...and keep my mouth shut.

OMG, I am so with you gals... as we speak!
Exercise helps. Talking helps. Awareness helps. Would try Lexaporo. . Some months it is unbearable. But, sometimes I think they are just feelings that need to be let out. Still struggling with this myself. The anger and irritation are one thing, but it is the depression I find so hard to deal with.

[This message edited by bionicgal at 7:54 AM, June 25th (Wednesday)]

This is me. I used to track my periods by chocolate cravings, now I track it by A related thoughts. Like Confused615, I try to stay busy and stay quiet.

Thanks ladies! I run and lift so the exercise isn't working. I think I will look into lexapro though. I have an ic and h has asked if I wanted to talk to the psych for meds. I like that it's something I could use as needed.

Omg Ithought it was just me. The As seem unbearable during PMS. Emotional rollercoaster at its peak! Also noticin a trend of heart palps during PMS that could be stress linked? I have looked up some natural supplements for pms and am thinking I willgo that route. Cant say I was a big pms sufferer prior to dday...now I get why men get scared of pms! Haha

I have always had mood swings during this time but of course, the A has exacerbated the sitch. I now chart my cycle. Day 19, I am BRUTAL. I am also brutal on Day 27 and 28. I wish I could just check into a motel! Still, I am REALLY trying to be conscience of what I am saying/doing and how I thinking bc thoughts can be so negative most the time anyway - they rev up during this time.

My Naturopath has me taking the B vitamins with a focus on B6. With B6 there is also the need to take B2 as the two work together. You can always get a multi B with some B6 on the side. The B's help us feel better. Increasing Magnesium is also supposed to help.

t/j

Also noticin a trend of heart palps during PMS that could be stress linked?

If you keep getting heart palps sunvalley, you might want to have your thyroid checked. Mine usually does this around this time as well and I am on meds for hypothyroidism.

Two years out and I still get angry, sad, upset periodically.

I never had PMS, so I don't think it's that.

For me, it's triggers.

I was diagnosed with post infidelity PTSD, and I was told that the triggers will always bring back the sadness and anger and it will be as intense as dday.

The good news is that apparently the episodes will be shorter and shorter over time, and I do find that to be true.

I used to be affected for days after a trigger, than hours and then minutes.

But the trigger always initiates a very intense response, that wanes more quickly with time.

Thanks LA....had thyroid issues in past but naturopath got them under control. PmDD can cause heart palps tooas can dehydration and stress. Just monitoring this month. If they cobtinue I will go in...would explain the 20lb weight gain too!

I don't know what you ladies are talking about! I NEVER get PMS and am a model of maintaining my emotions at all times.

Yes!!! Dealing with this as we speak! We have 2 maybe 3 good weeks and then bam...all my unresolved questions and feelings come out with vengence and I cry...a lot! I even get on my own nerves.

Count me in on this fun little club! I didn't notice it, but FWH brought it to my attention.

So I have been pretty consistent my entire life. 2 Days before I start, I am on the prowl for sex. 1 Day before I start I find myself a little upset about something...maybe a tear wells up. Next morning, my sentence gets punctuated.

Post A:

3 Days before = Depressed/Hate my WH
2 Days before = Ranting/Laying on the Floor sobbing
1 Day before = same floor in bigger pile of tears and snot

I suggested to my WH that we both need to start putting a 3 day alert on our calendars. So I'm more selective in what I say, so he is more sensitive to my feelings, and so we both don't get hurt more.

Count me in. The three days prior to my period are a total nightmare. I truly hate it. I am super sensitive to A triggers during that time. I cry. I rage. I feel like a monster. The day before I get my period, I become completely preoccupied with thinking about sex.

Once Aunt Flo visits, it's like the cloud lifts and I am able to think clearly again. It all makes me feel like a prisoner of my hormones.

I've noticed the same thing. Thoughts, anger, etc. get worse just before as the hormones escalate.

Have you tried upping your calcium 3-4 days before your cycle starts? It is supposed to help with pms. I found a smoothie that helps me. I tend to get super tired. It has lots of vitamins, calcium, iron. Maybe check with your dr and if needed have routine lab work done.