SurvivingInfidelity.com Forum Archives

Return to Forum List

Colossal Waste of Brain Power

You are not logged in. Login here or register.

WhereIsHome posted 6/25/2014 08:49 AM

When you are in a betrayed shoes.

If you put us all in same room I bet we could draft plan for world peace and maybe discover some cures for diseases while we are at it.

I know it's my life and my families life so I have to do my best to make the right decision but it is all consuming thinking, dwelling, etc... I cannot wait till one day when I will be using brain cells for something that will be happy, positive, and enrich my or my families life. That will be a good day indeed!

TrulySad posted 6/25/2014 10:11 AM

Wow, this is so very true! I miss the days when life was spent thinking about actually living...not consumed with thinking, breathing, and dreaming all about this.

TheIrishGirl posted 6/25/2014 13:15 PM

Plus the BSs tend to be the ones who can keep their heads about them. And the ones working on R, well, they know a thing or two about making peace.

simplydevastated posted 6/25/2014 13:21 PM

I cannot wait till one day when I will be using brain cells for something that will be happy, positive, and enrich my or my families life. That will be a good day indeed!

Absolutely!

MindMonkey posted 6/25/2014 13:22 PM

My head is always spinning with thoughts...buddhists call it the MindMonkey.

My mind used to go EVERYWHERE. It used to bother me so much. I could never focus on one thing.

FWW fixed that for me. Thanks, babe.

WhereIsHome posted 6/25/2014 21:31 PM

I feel like this is great words of wisdom for us betrayed. My buddy who got blindsided just like me said the following....

try to do something each day that is toward happiness and if WS doesn't fit into that activity or thought that that's a pretty clear indicator

Ostrich80 posted 6/26/2014 00:27 AM

Omg I agree. I could have gone back to school, had an awesome job by now. All of the time I've spent on this shit just makes me sick. It just takes over your life and its hard to make it stop. I was obsessing over ws obsessing over ow. Like a dog chasing its tail.

jjct posted 6/26/2014 06:32 AM

Does this not describe the core of the 180?

I cannot wait till one day when I will be using brain cells for something that will be happy, positive, and enrich my or my families life.

Seems like it does...

I don't know your sitch exactly, but I'm asking - what is your W doing? Is she showing true remorse in actions?

I peeked at your profile (& thanks for putting it there, it helps!) and found:

Her affairs and level of deceit to maintain them are just flat out despicable. Due to her career success, running marathons, and the ability to successfully smokescreen two affairs the past six years I think she is of sound mind. If healthy mentally, I would be long gone if it wasn't for our little girl.

I understand what you're saying, but is it really mentally healthy to do what she did (plus the level of deceit)?
Might want to think about it...

Regardless -is she doing the work a truly remorseful spouse needs to do?
You can't do it for her brother.
So yes, get into yourself, there's your real happy place.

jjct posted 6/26/2014 06:46 AM

Just stumbled on bionicgal's tagline

An affair is more like a mental illness than a relationship.

So yeah. Wow.

bionicgal posted 6/26/2014 06:55 AM

Glad to be of service.

Return to Forum List

© 2002-2018 SurvivingInfidelity.com ®. All Rights Reserved.