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 somethingremorse (original poster member #42047) posted at 10:20 PM on Wednesday, June 25th, 2014

I have been so incredibly lucky these last months. I just wanted to acknowledge that.

My BW has given me a chance, I am still at home with my family.

I messed up so many things at work during my bad years. I just found another one yesterday that could have been bad -- like malpractice bad. But today my client showed me a solution. That is kind of the inspiration for this topic.

I know that my inlaws or the APs or their BHs could have made all sorts of problems for me, at home or work or the community. Those would have made it much harder to heal. So far, none of that has happened. People who know have been supportive, and people who suspect anything have been quiet.

I'm lucky that I have the financial resources to get IC and MC, and get ADs, and that I found really great ones to help. I have the flexibility to go to therapy without risking my job (much, anyway).

I'm lucky that my BW has chosen to remember the person I used to be, and see the person that I am determined to become, and accept how badly I lost my way in between. She is taking a huge chance on me. I know that she now realizes she is strong enough to walk away if she wanted to. I am so lucky that she is using that strength to stay.

I don't know why I'm posting this. I know a lot of people here have worked so hard, but haven't been as lucky as me. I know that very few people here have f***ed up as badly as I did. So many people here have helped me -- another way I have been lucky. I just want to acknowledge the grace I have received. I do not deserve it. I will never take it for granted.

Me: WH (40s)
DDay 11/03/13
In MC and IC

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WalkinOnEggshelz ( member #29447) posted at 10:43 PM on Wednesday, June 25th, 2014

I can completely relate to that feeling of being lucky. I often tell my BH that I am the luckiest girl in the world.

Things have always seemed to work itself out in my world. Low caseload at work? My PRN job calls and offers hours. I typically have parking fairies at the store. And of course, the luckiest thing of all was the second chance I have been given by my BH. My second chance to be a better person, wife, mother. So ya, I consider myself extremely lucky.

The thing is that now I understand that I am fortunate to have these opportunities in my life. I had taken those opportunities for granted in the past. Today I don't.

I just want to acknowledge the grace I have received. I do not deserve it.

I get that too. Learning a certain amount of humility will help keep that feeling with you so you don't take what you have for granted once again.

I think acknowledging this is a great step!

If you keep asking people to give you the benefit of the doubt, they will eventually start to doubt your benefit.

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dana47 ( member #43711) posted at 11:13 PM on Wednesday, June 25th, 2014

I'm lucky too. I married a strong, supportive, loving man.

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Wayflost ( member #41583) posted at 1:27 AM on Thursday, June 26th, 2014

Ditto. I'm lucky to have a chance today.

"Generally, by the time you are Real, most of your hair has been loved off, and your eyes drop out and you get loose in the joints and very shabby. But these things don't matter at all, because once you are Real you can't be ugly."

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DrJekyll ( member #43618) posted at 11:48 AM on Thursday, June 26th, 2014

I used to consider myself to be very unlucky. If something could go wrong for me it did. But I am very lucky. Because the couple things that really matter in this world have gone in my favor. My DS who was not supposed to live longer than 6 hours is 10yo. And my BS has given me a huge gift of attempting R. It may turn out in the end to just be a deal breaker. But in the mean time, I get 1 more day. Every day is a new opportunity. And every day is a gift.

A wound can be stitched shut, but it decides when it will heal on its own.

ME: WH HER: BS (holesinmybucket)

I do not PM with Women

Hardships often prepare ordinary people for an extraordinary destiny. C.S.Lewis

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islesguy ( member #38090) posted at 1:35 PM on Thursday, June 26th, 2014

I feel incredibly lucky to still be in a relationship with my BS, what I have put her through and what she continues to go through is incredible and sickening. She is absolutely the strongest person I have ever known.

I just want to acknowledge the grace I have received. I do not deserve it.

Me: WH
My BS has given me every opportunity to prove myself to her and I have failed again and again. I lied to her for well over 20 years and did nothing to help her. I made promises to her again and again that I would step up and still have not.

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