Our intimate life has been very empty. We haven't had S.x for a looooong time. WH was not only in an EA for 18-20 months, he has been using porn for about 13 years on and off. WH has a hard time connecting emotionally and it affects our intimacy.
Anyway, we have reestablished that part of our relationship. I felt strong feelings for about 5 days. Maybe HB? One thing I noticed is that he had shaved his hair around his pe...s. I asked him about it and he said he did it a couple months ago because it looked ugly to him. (He is almost 60 and not involved with anyone else and also not looking a porn since Dec.) After being married to him for almost 30 years I am wondering what is going on in his head. (He just said he thought it looked ugly ... but whats the big concern?) Am I just out of touch with the male thought process? Are all or most men concerned about what their pe...s looks like even if they are the only one to see it?
Yes, among us older couples it is catching on and almost a regular thing with the youngers. I would suspect any sudden changes without good explanations. Maybe he just wanted to try it. Is he keeping it up? Enjoy it.
I tell people I am tired but really my heart is broken and I am sad.
In contrast, ex cheater wife suddenly got a brazillian in the middle of her affair. Looking back, it was yet another indicator of her secret life that I should have recognized.
"Even a dead fish will go with the flow. Don't be a dead fish." - my pastor.
BW: 43 (me) WH: 41 (him)
DDay 1 = 1/13, DDay2 = 7/14 (False R), D 3/15
If you feel confident it's not symptomatic that he's doing anything you don't know about, it's just a fashion that's making the rounds. If he used to watch porn, that would be a very easy way to have been exposed to it (no pun intended).
My H does this sometimes. I think it makes it look longer if it's trimmed up. He'll kill me if he sees this.
Why would he kill you? I bet he'd be glad you noticed.
I started shaving down there. Bare in some areas and tidied up in others. I read once that manscaping results in more oral sex. Since I know I prefer going down on my W when she is well groomed, I figured it must be true.
FWIW, it's not really true . But I found it more comfortable and, yes, a appears to add some length . So I keep it.
[This message edited by Ostrich80 at 2:50 PM, June 26th (Thursday)]
The downside? It grows back and creates stubble if I neglect to shave for several days. I've heard that women quit shaving "down there" for the same reason.