I countered offered and included the vehicles and things like that. I also included his humidors, he told me I could keep them. Like what good would they do me?
Doe anybody know how to settle financially without it getting ugly? The divorce itself is going to be ugly enough.
It rarely happens. You can try mediation, but that only works if both partners are open to discussion.
In your case, with you being unable to work, you'll probably need a lot more then he will willingly give up. So unless you're willing to lower your lifestyle with what he offers, or he realizes he'll need to anty up more under the circumstances, I would prepare for court appearances.
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I think you'll be needing your official declarations/findings that you're disabled and cannot work in order to sway a judge to write a decision that protects you. Even then, you also need to be prepared that your STBX may still find ways not to provide support to you.
Are you receiving SSDI or any other type of government assistance? I think it may be helpful to document the amount of support you relied on from him throughout your marriage.
It does not seem as if your stbxh gives a shit about anyone but himself so you are going to have to advocate HARD for yourself. You CAN do this! Good luck!!
Marriages that start this way, stepping over the bodies of loved ones as the giddy couple walks down the aisle, are not likely to last.
