My MC characterizes post-A injuries as injuries of attachment and this seems to fit, at least for me. Pre-A we trusted that when our spouse left our sight, s/he would still exist to us as they usually did (loyal, committed). This is much like how a toddler learns to trust that mom still exists and is still mom when she is in another room. The A changed that and there is increased anxiety about what we took for granted before. Of course you're edgy, even though his cheating is not related to the military and he won't be around eligible women. You can't see him and so you don't feel that connection to him. Is there any way that he can Skype with you or connect with you in other ways to help with this?