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PenitentMan (original poster member #43174) posted at 5:51 PM on Friday, June 27th, 2014
A few days ago a cat roamed into our neck of the hood and our son crouched down and stuck his hand out and made a new friend. He started asking if he could get a cat. Well, as it so happens BW's friend's cat had kittens. Our son asked his mom if we could have one. She said no. He asked her for a couple days, and even drew a cute picture of a cat. BW explained to me that it wasn't a good idea because of all the uncertainty right now. If she's not staying, there's no point in getting one and it would be one less thing to worry about. I, of course, understood completely.
This morning they went to see if our dogs would get along with one of the kittens.
Wait, what??
They just got back... with a kitten...
I said "what made you change your mind?"
She looked at me and said "....Why not?"
Why not indeed. 
Me: FWH (39)
Her: BW (34)
DDay 1: March 2013 (EA/PA that *I* rugswept)
DDay 2: April 2014 (PA with double betrayal. OW was wife's friend)
Married: Since 2001
hopeful325 ( new member #43521) posted at 6:08 PM on Friday, June 27th, 2014
I hope I'm not breaking a rule by responding since I'm a BS. But I was touched by this, even teared up. Don't know why it got to me lol. But I wanted to say YAY for you. Sometimes it's the little signals sent by our spouses that keep us going, whether we're BS or WS. Beat of luck to you all!
somethingremorse ( member #42047) posted at 7:30 PM on Friday, June 27th, 2014
That's cool. Every little step towards a "normal" life is great, isn't it?
Me: WH (40s)
DDay 11/03/13
In MC and IC
Darkness Falls ( member #27879) posted at 7:37 PM on Friday, June 27th, 2014
Yay for one more kitten in the world finding a good home. I'm happy for your family.
Married -> I cheated -> We divorced -> We remarried -> Had two kids -> Now we’re miserable again
Staying together for the kids
D-day 2010
BrokenButTrying ( member #42111) posted at 10:10 PM on Friday, June 27th, 2014
Best post ever. Awesome update and talk of kittens. All that's missing is a photo of the new family addition!
Madhatters - We have R'd.
Chin up. Unwavering. Fight. We can do this.
PenitentMan (original poster member #43174) posted at 10:48 PM on Friday, June 27th, 2014
Well.
OK.
You asked for it!
But don't blame me if this brightens anyone's day.
I'm not a trained therapist and I accept no responsibility for anyone smiling or "aww"ing because of this photo.
[This message edited by SelfishHusband at 5:01 PM, June 27th (Friday)]
Me: FWH (39)
Her: BW (34)
DDay 1: March 2013 (EA/PA that *I* rugswept)
DDay 2: April 2014 (PA with double betrayal. OW was wife's friend)
Married: Since 2001
BrokenButTrying ( member #42111) posted at 10:55 PM on Friday, June 27th, 2014
SH, upload the photo to photobucket and copy the direct URL, then click on the 'image' button on the left of the post comment box and paste the copied URL in.
Madhatters - We have R'd.
Chin up. Unwavering. Fight. We can do this.
BrokenButTrying ( member #42111) posted at 11:15 PM on Friday, June 27th, 2014
Awww so cute! I'm very jealous, I love cats but H has never let me have one :(
Has it got a name?
Madhatters - We have R'd.
Chin up. Unwavering. Fight. We can do this.
PenitentMan (original poster member #43174) posted at 11:18 PM on Friday, June 27th, 2014
Spot. Just like Data's cat. (Star Trek)
Me: FWH (39)
Her: BW (34)
DDay 1: March 2013 (EA/PA that *I* rugswept)
DDay 2: April 2014 (PA with double betrayal. OW was wife's friend)
Married: Since 2001
BrokenButTrying ( member #42111) posted at 11:32 PM on Friday, June 27th, 2014
Very cool
Congratulations on your step forward as a family, SH. Really happy for you!
Madhatters - We have R'd.
Chin up. Unwavering. Fight. We can do this.
cinnamongurl ( member #37879) posted at 5:28 AM on Saturday, June 28th, 2014
So very cute! Congratulations! Kittens are the best! There's a photo of my furry one up in OT. Take a jump over and check her out! Does your little one have a name?
Me:FWS 42 He: FBS 43 and my heart
Together 22 years. We survived infidelity. "Healing takes courage, and we all have courage, even if we have to dig a little to find it." Tori Amos
CG
ShellShockedSid ( member #29068) posted at 12:58 PM on Saturday, June 28th, 2014
Congratulations! Two little kittens have been an important part of my healing. Kittens can bring a smile when nothing else will. I can't think of a better distraction!
My kittens are now full grown cats, and they aren't as silly as they were in the first year, but now, they bring comfort in a different way. For me, there is nothing more comforting than relaxed, purring cat in my lap.
There is actual research that cats (and dogs) will lower blood pressure. I don't know if I would have survived without them.
BW: 47 me
FWH: 50
DDay: 1/22/2010
Reconciling.
"Promise me you'll always remember: You're braver than you believe, and stronger than you seem, and smarter than you think." Christopher Robin to Pooh
DrJekyll ( member #43618) posted at 2:42 PM on Saturday, June 28th, 2014
Wow this is too funny. My BS and I were just yesterday looking at a dog. As we already have a cat. LOL yet another example that we are all on our different paths together. 
A wound can be stitched shut, but it decides when it will heal on its own.
ME: WH HER: BS (holesinmybucket)
I do not PM with Women
Hardships often prepare ordinary people for an extraordinary destiny. C.S.Lewis
Zayda1 ( member #35387) posted at 6:37 PM on Saturday, June 28th, 2014
Awwww...I want a kitten too, but I allergic :(
I do agree that my pet (dog) helped me immensely over the last two years. Just having a warm body next to me provided so much comfort when I felt I couldn't trust another human. My Zayda pup is my best comfort!
Married 10 years, together for 12 years
2 children (9 years & 6 years)
Discovery of PA 04/15/12 (It only lasted a "couple of weeks" but it still shattered my world.)
Trying2LoveAgain ( member #43024) posted at 12:25 AM on Sunday, June 29th, 2014
SO precious! Since our Dday and life has been so much more Sad around our house...our 30 yr. old son who still lives at home with us,adopted a stray Siamese kitten! He has brought SO much joy to our son and to all of us! Furry friends are such a blessing from God! SO happy for you All! :)
Me:BS
Him:FWH
2 DS:2 D Grandchildren
"Life is a journey, travel with Care "...Me 🙈🙉🙊"Life is not a dress rehearsal, make the ONE you have count"....Me
tired girl ( member #28053) posted at 2:37 AM on Sunday, June 29th, 2014
It is good that you are feeling some hope from this experience.
Remember to take one day at a time with this and enjoy this new little creature with your son.
Me 47 Him 47 Hardlessons
DS 27,25,23
D Day's becoming less important as time moves on.
"No one can make you feel inferior without your consent." Eleanor Roosevelt
My bad for trying to locate remorse on your morality map. OITNB
FixYou71 ( member #42654) posted at 1:28 AM on Monday, June 30th, 2014
Yay indeed! And sooo precious!
BS:44
H: 50
Dday #1 Oct 2007 (Porn for 2 yrs)
Dday #2 May 2013 (Porn for 5 more yrs))
Dday#3 May 2014 (finally admitted to drunk kissing OW in 1994: the 2nd drunken kiss with another woman during our M)
DD 22 and DS 18
Married 1993
ThatGuyNoMore ( member #42899) posted at 2:01 AM on Monday, June 30th, 2014
Awww, very cute! Getting a new pet is an act of hopefulness in my book. Take good signs wherever you can.
Me and BW both 50
Married 24 years, 4 kids
D-Day 3/5/14
14 years of infidelity including multiple ONS and a 6½ yr LTA
I lied to everyone including myself.
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