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User Topic: Rules for a successful R??
♀ 43890
Member # 43890
Default  Posted: 5:05 PM, June 27th (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Did you make a written contract for R?
I'm thinking I will make a contract and present it to WS today, and if he doesn't want to abide by it, I have all his clothes and belongings already packed and by the door.

What were some rules you established for a successful R?

DD-5 yrs old
OW: Girl he met at a comic book store we used to frequent. He "liked" her and had sex with her for at least a month. Possibly is still sleeping with her.

Posts: 36 | Registered: Jun 2014 | From: Los Angeles, CA
♀ 41535
Member # 41535
Default  Posted: 5:15 PM, June 27th (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Read the thread in here called "Before you say R..." It's wonderful for laying out the needs of a BS.

I had these:

100% transparency and accountability
Expressed remorse
Recognizing that I was in no way responsible for the EAs
No alone time with feminine women
The truth about the worst of what she did

I did the 180 until she agreed and we were separated in-house. I told her to start looking for an apartment when she decided to meet my needs for R.

Risk you relationship to save it.

Good luck.

WS: 39
BS: 39
DS: 6
9 year relationship
DDay #1: September 6, 2013 EA for 5 weeks August 2013 with TT
DDay #2: January 2, 2014 EA for 6 weeks summer 2011 with TT
"I am still learning." -Michelangelo

Posts: 937 | Registered: Dec 2013 | From: Midwest
♀ 30314
Member # 30314
Default  Posted: 5:29 PM, June 27th (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

check out this thread. Mhca made this list of requirements:

his Dday: 2/10 but TT until 7/11
my Ddays: 1/12, 4/12 broken NC 12/12

me (WW/BS): 48
him: (BS/WH)52
4 kiddos in mid 20's

“Most things will be okay eventually, but not everything will be. Acceptance is a small, quiet room.”

Posts: 6138 | Registered: Dec 2010 | From: Midwest
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