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I'm back on OLD, and one guy I was talking to gave me his number to text. I wrote it down wrong (my 9 looked like a 7) so texted a random number. Obviously I didn't know this at the time.

Instead of telling me that I had the wrong number, this guy tried to get me to send him naked pictures and have an affair with him. And he never even met me!

Finally, after I told him he was disgusting and I was blocking him, he told me that he didn't want to ruin things with my friend, so told me I had the wrong number -- that he was actually married with two boys. What an asshole!

Figured things out and I'm meeting the real guy today for a first date (he's from Costa Rica so we're going to watch the Costa Rican world cup game.)

In other news, got hit on by a very persistent 24 year old yesterday. I turn 36 next week. I told him I was way too old for him, but got the age is just a number comment. Had never had someone tell me that in person before

Whenever I hear stories like that my first thought...well my first thought after :puke:...is this...
Does that ever actually work?

That is crazy. All sorts of people are on OLD.

One I came across recently when surfing has a status of "married". And some...odd photos.

I'm super self conscious so pictures are hard anyway, but I find it goes against my thinking, the pictures. Yet so many people do it.

On OLD I was rated "old fashioned" for my beliefs and habits or ways, but stick to them and am glad you did, too. They ask for the pictures quickly and there's even a pattern I'm noticing after only a short time.

A couple weeks ago, I ran across Perv there! and you know what? I don't see the picture now, lol. Maybe I got blocked.

One I'm trying to shake is a guy 15 years older than me. He said something like your number comment.

[This message edited by Ashland13 at 2:11 PM, June 29th (Sunday)]

Just to be clear -- this is nothing against OLD. The guy I accidentally texted is not (to my knowledge) on OLD. He just didn't tell me I had the wrong number and then asked for sexy photos.

The actual guy from OLD has, so far, been a perfect gentleman!

I understand and same with my response.

Take that 24 year old's compliment, and live off of it for a week at least. There are plenty of people who will put you down, but not so many who will tell you sweet things. Treasure them, put them in your pocket, and wear those compliments all over town. You are the one who deserved it. Be that person!

I told him I was way too old for him, but got the age is just a number comment. Had never had someone tell me that in person before

I'm 39 this year and I've told a few optimistic young-uns that too young for me was STILL too old for them. Not going to happen, buddy.

What on earth would I have in common with a 24 y/o? Even the sex would be underwhelming. I could see how if I was emotionally stunted like the sad clown I would think it appropriate at 42 to have a 25 y/o 'luurve' but as it stands I'm not. Thank fuck.

On the age thing, one of my first OLD experiences was with someone at was 10 years younger, 32 to my 42 at the time.

I said "what could I possibly have in common with you?" He said that he was just looking for friendship, and that he was asking for an evening, a walk, and some conversation. Best thing I ever did was go on a walk with him.

He was the architect of my finally removing wxh from my house after the D- he created my plan and talked me through it. He has been so supportive in the past 4 years since I've known him, and I consider him a really good friend.

It has not progressed past friendship, which is fine. But you never know what you're going to get some times.

he told me that he didn't want to ruin things with my friend,

Wow - isn't he just all heart?

You should of texted him back and said that was ok; you are very stealth with online research and you will be sure to forward his messages to his W as soon as you track her down.

The guy would be paranoid for weeks.

Ewwww. Honestly, I don't know why I am constantly surprised at the creeps that are out there! I hear enough stories but I'm floored every.single.time.

I'm glad you got the mix up fix - -and that the REAL guy is a gentleman.

Just to follow up -- meeting with the real guy went really well.

We went to an international bar in town -- which, not surprisingly, is a soccer hub -- to watch the game.

Really low-key first meet, which is my preference. And Costa Rica won, so bonus!

We're getting together Friday for mountain biking (well, hilly forest biking) and dinner.

I've learned not to get my hopes up, but after penis cake bakery guy, I'm just happy to have had a nice afternoon with a new guy.