Edited to add: sorry for typos, typing on my phone...
He uses people for things he needs. He's using her for her brain. She was valedictorian of her nursing class. ALL of her emails to him are either her grading his papers before he submits them, outlining what's due this week or providing her papers to him. All ending in "Love you!" And "thank you baby!" He's using me because he's a full time nursing student who DOES NOT WORK. I gave him a 30 day notice and I will be filing eviction papers Monday morning (I have to in my state, already spoke with the police department).
So that's it. I'm trying to shield he kids from this but, they will have to find out sooner or later. I know they see me speaking very little to their father. They haven't said anything. But I'm trying to ensure that they still have a good summer vacation before their work falls apart
[This message edited by Numb2014 at 12:45 PM, June 29th (Sunday)]
Thoughts are with you.
At least he has shown you his true colors. Continue to believe he is a user. Any thoughts on finding the kids a child psychologist to help them through?
Sucks that you have to wait 30 days. Are you familiar with the 180 that is designed for you to detach? I'll go find the links for them....
ETA - Read up on the 180 so that you start to use it. It is designed for you to detach and can be found under BS FAQ here:
And more 180 info under the target thread here:
[This message edited by yearsofpain25 at 2:49 PM, June 29th (Sunday)]
For the most part, he is invisible to me when he is here. I woke up in the middle of he night to his hand on my hip. I made sure to push his hands off of me hard enough to wake him up and placed the body pillow between.
I really do hate him. High school sweethearts. ONLY MAN I've EVER been with. I'm only 32 so I'm still young but, I don't even know the first thing about dating. And I read since he was truly my first love, I will compare all other men to him.
I can't wait until he is out of my house and it's just me and the kids b
And I read since he was truly my first love, I will compare all other men to him.
This is true. And, when you do, you will likely see just what an asshole he is, and how much better off you are without him.
Why would she try to help him keep his relationship?
Because most affairs "need" the spousal relationship to continue in order to thrive. That's why the 180 sometimes breaks up the affair.
This is especially true where there is a married AP. People can handle a spouse and a FWB, but not two spouses.
When one APs spouse calls it quits, he/she is left with no one to suffice the needs. The only thing left is the fantasy, which quickly dies as the needs get transferred onto the other "taker".
Sounds like what this gal wants is the affair, not him. She wants the thrills and strokes, but doesn't want him bringing his dirty laundry.
[This message edited by tfkeel at 6:16 PM, June 29th (Sunday)]
And, when you do, you will likely see just what an asshole he is, and how much better off you are without him.
My FWW was flirting in nursing school with a married man. Then she proceeded to f*ck coworkers once she entered the work force.
If you are strong enough to leave him now, it'll only get worse. A horrible profession for a wayward. Or, a LOT of IC and MC.
Strength to you!