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Smashedat58 posted 6/29/2014 16:15 PM

I finally did what many people have suggested, and joined some Meetup groups. At first, I met some really nice women who were fun to go out with, and that felt much safer, and comfortable. In the last few weeks, I have met two men to have fun with. One, is very shy, but l think he really likes me because he emails me every day, and we have been hiking, walking, dining, and swimming in my pool almost every day. The other, likes to dance, and I met him and danced the night away. He is not shy, at all, and has emailed me several times. I plan to go dancing with him this next week. I am not looking for a permanent relationship, just lots of fun. I hope these guys aren't expecting too much from me. I really enjoy being with both of them, and I don't want to make anyone jealous. Am I doing something wrong? My divorce isn't final, yet, but the marriage has been over for at least 6 months. Never going back!!

fireproof posted 6/29/2014 16:26 PM

That is great you signed up for meetup. I would suggest going to things you are interested in and your more likely to meet people with similar interests.

As far as dating or hanging out I would suggest keeping things platonic. The standard time is a year after the divorce because there is a greater possibility that your perception of a new life might need to settle into that new life.

Being single or unattached is not dull especially if you use the time for your interests and building new friendships.

Enjoy the time but keep it on a friendly level at least until the divorce goes through if not longer.

Just my thoughts.

[This message edited by fireproof at 9:00 PM, June 29th (Sunday)]

fireproof posted 6/29/2014 16:26 PM

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SBB posted 6/29/2014 20:53 PM

I know it's a typo but I can't resist: plutonic made made laugh.

Pluton
In geology, a pluton is a body of intrusive igneous rock that is crystallized from magma slowly cooling below the surface of the Earth.

Unless you want their intrusive rocks near your magma I'd keep it platonic.

Do they know you're hanging out with the other? As long as you're not hiding anything then you're not doing anything wrong. Your job is to be honest and open about the fact that you're not looking for anything more than friendship from them. And to have a good time in your NB.

That their expectations exceed what I'm looking for is their issue, not mine. As long as I'm honest and open about it.

Smashedat58 posted 7/7/2014 11:58 AM

Very funny SBB, I asked Mr. Geologist if he knew what a pluton was, and he did. I said nothing about my magma pool. He's starting to be less afraid of me and even invited me to a cookout at his home. He still hasn't gotten up the nerve to try to kiss me, but he has given me some hugs. I'm starting to crave his attention, or maybe it is his pluton.

SBB posted 7/8/2014 03:16 AM

I'm digging the quiet, take it slow guys too these days. Not that I'm doing anything about it with them but my current crushes all fall into this category.

How nice is it to have a crush on someone again? My magma pool is bubbling along nicely after an Ice Age.

Smashedat58 posted 7/8/2014 07:19 AM

I think my magma pool is about to boil over. It has been so long since an eruption, that I might just go Vesuvius on him.

brokeninfl posted 7/8/2014 07:52 AM

smashed -- sounds promising

And I just have to say -- ya'll made me laugh so hard my morning coffie almost ended up all over my shirt.

My magma pool is bubbling along nicely after an Ice Age.

I think my magma pool is about to boil over. It has been so long since an eruption, that I might just go Vesuvius on him

Smashedat58 posted 7/8/2014 07:55 AM

Isn't it great when you have some feelings for someone, again. I think I need an Orgasmatron or a cold shower.

Smashedat58 posted 7/12/2014 22:56 PM

Mr. Geology laid one on me, and I almost went home with him. Who knew scientists were so sexy? Yowza. Meow. Good kisser.

wonderingbull posted 7/13/2014 17:06 PM

Hey... I'm a geologist... I resemble that remark...

WB

Smashedat58 posted 7/13/2014 22:00 PM

Well, geologists have very short memories. After bending me over the back of his car last night to smooch me, tonight I just got a peck on the lips. I think he's playing hard to get. He makes my magma pool boil.