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Yes I know I wasn't married when this all happen but I feel that I was fooled for all these years. I ran into his telephone records and see how he calls her and she doesn't answer so he called me. Yes he talked to me more at some times but the days he didn't call me and talked her, he never talked to me. I know he met up with her in a small town several miles from where we live.

The phone records show he was still calling her a year later. His claim is that he didn't do anything with her after he met up with her but they were still talking. Making me doubt they stopped meeting up.

I just feel soo betrayed for what he did. I was so stupid to think he loved me.

Ugh, I know you feel crummy. Time has its way of healing those sick feelings. I will pray that you find peace. You are not alone.

Thanks, just makes me wonder how someone could be so selfish in all of this and care for my feelings.

But if roles were reversed, he'd be devastated.

Not being married does not at all lessen the pain. You have just as much of a right to feel hurt.

Nor does his betrayal reflect on you. It is not your fault that you did not know. You were not stupid to love him.

Forgive yourself for having been duped and do not put the blame on yourself.

(((yme)))

It's hard not to blame yourself for being so dumb and naïve. Because I really was, I was the one who was being faithful and listening to all his bs. He was quick to blame for seeing someone else but yet he was still calling her after he made told me that. I don't know why I didn't see all these red flags. I see them all too well now and really feel that during our whole relationship he was with someone else.

I feel exactly the same way...so stupid for believing him all these years. I sure hope this pain goes away one day...though I cant imagine it ever will. Sorry you are going through all this.

Sad thing is that he can't man up and admit to his faults. That's what really annoys me. I was thinking of R but I'm now second guessing doing that because he hasn't been up front with me at all.