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Numb2014 posted 6/30/2014 11:45 AM

anyone else start this habit after everything? I never crave a cigarette until shit like this happens.

i just want to sleep through this.

IrishGirlVA posted 6/30/2014 12:06 PM

I always smoked but found myself smoking even more after my DDay. A few months ago I started getting one of those smoker coughs which got really bad at night when I laid down to sleep. So a couple weeks ago I switched to e-cigs (vaping) and I have felt so much better.

Is that something you might want to try doing?

I still get my nicotine fix and the smoking sensation that helps take the edge off.

incredulous.me posted 6/30/2014 12:17 PM

I found great comfort in the odd packet alright

craig2001 posted 6/30/2014 12:34 PM

E-Cigs are the way to go. The nicotine helps and you dont have to deal with all the chemicals or smoke in the cigarettes. I smoked so much after DD, I thought I would get COPD right then and there.

Mercilesslynuked posted 6/30/2014 13:00 PM

I'll vouch for the ecigs as well. I went from a half pack per day to 1.5/day. The smokers cough and threat of copd, alpha 1 antitrypsin, heart and lung diseases etc somehow became more real when my consumption increased substantially. For me it was realizing that if I had the power to survive infidelity, quitting smoking should be a walk in the park.

As an aside, some antidepressants also are used to help quit smoking, ask a doctor about this and two birds one stone it!

EvenKeel posted 6/30/2014 14:02 PM

I understand that you mean. I am not a smoker (ie since HS) and found myself many times of almost stopping to buy some during that stage (through D).

I was able to hang tough.

k9lover1 posted 6/30/2014 14:49 PM

I had quit smoking about a year before DDay. But I swore I would not go back to smoking.

He has just severly wounded me, why would I want to hurt myself even more by smoking again?

I still haven't picked up a cig and don't intend to.

Put them down right now, quit before you get too entrenched in them again.

I'm speaking not only as a former smoker, but a cancer survivor.

PUT THE CIGARETTE DOWN!!

hopefull77 posted 6/30/2014 19:31 PM

I was a 'social smoker' quit for over a year...started up when he started withdrawing...I had no idea why he was withdrawing....now I still do buy a few packs a week....definitely a crutch....

Jls0320 posted 6/30/2014 22:52 PM

I had quit for nearly 7 yrs, started up shortly before d day, now I'm struggling to quit again

stunnedmullet posted 7/1/2014 01:08 AM

I was so very close to starting again after not smoking for about 5 years. I fell pregnant during HB so it helped me not start again. But boy do I crave them desperately on those hard days

justafarmgal posted 7/1/2014 02:05 AM

I quit for two years, but after D-Day, I took it up again and am having a hard time putting them down. Actually I'm smoking more than I ever did! I know I need to stop, but just can't seem to let go.

BrokenheartedUK posted 7/1/2014 07:55 AM

Me!! The first two weeks I was practically chain smoking in the garden but that's calmed down to about 2 packs a week. What the hell. I figure in the shit storm that is my life, I'm not going to get too excited about this one part of it.

I may try the e-cigs though...

craig2001 posted 7/1/2014 08:14 AM

Two things increased dramatically after Dday, smoking and swearing.

Smoking because of constant nerves and thinking.

Swearing because regular English did not seem to work. Slow English did not seem to work.

If I knew Greek, I would have tried that.

Nicotine can help with dementia and Parkinsons. Plus, every time you eat a tomato, you are getting some nicotine.

Now I have to unlearn swearing, since that didnt help either.

BrokenheartedUK posted 7/1/2014 08:18 AM

Yes Craig that's true about the swearing too! Ha! I texted the OW the night I found out off my husband's phone calling her a C*** and I've used that word practically once a day for six months. I NEVER used that word before but now...

The things you do and say when you've been betrayed. Who knew?

imarriedmymother posted 7/1/2014 12:33 PM

Occasional cigar before D-Day, 1/2 pack a day since.

FUCK CIGARETTES!!!.............anybody got a light?

fuck me..........

Jomarion posted 7/1/2014 19:26 PM

Yup, I started to smoke too. 'They' were always going outside to smoke 'together', so I started to join in. Did not think I would get hooked, but I did. I have since quit though, after a year of smoking. The e-cigarettes helped a lot, also visiting my mother, who would've gone ballistic if she knew I was smoking, so it pushed me to stop. I am just damn angry at myself that I hurt my wonderful body and started to smoke because of those s---s. I should've walked away and let them go at it, I was worth more.

blindsided14 posted 7/1/2014 19:39 PM

I'm in the same boat. Used to smoke about five cigs a day when at wprk and almost never at home. Now anywhere from 1/2 to 1 pack a day (and I smoke more when i'm at home - when i'm triggering or need to step away or am reading/posting on SI).

Maybe I'll try the e-cigs as well. What brand do you guys use? I've tried a few and haven't found any of them to be very satisfying.

craig2001 posted 7/1/2014 20:13 PM

I got the Halo G6 starter kit and use the mini tanks instead of cartridges. And buy the bottles of liquid and fill the mini tanks. Cheaper than buying cartridges.

Numb2014 posted 7/1/2014 20:35 PM

Lucky for me, I can't stand the taste/smell so it's not sticking.

I'm forcing myself to eat. Since yesterday am, I've inky eaten 1 egg burrito and one bowl of ramen and lots of coffee.

Just in so much pain. I stand firm in that I won't R, but it still fucking hurts that I wasn't worth the fight.

EmbraceTheChange posted 7/1/2014 20:51 PM

Yep,I started smoking again, a month after Dday (after not smoking for 14 years). At one point, I got so stressed that I would pretty much smoke 3 cigarettes, one after the other, especially when he would tell me the contents of some texts between him and COW.

I'm still smoking, though i say to myself that I'm just on a break from non-smoking (if that makes sense), and also that I am not a true smoker since I don't have an ashtray. Yes, I do have cigarettes and a lighter, but it's the ashtray that would make me into a real hardcore smoker. So I'm all right. :)