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Topic: I laughed.
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cmego
♀ 30346
Member # 30346 |  Posted: 5:26 PM, June 30th (Monday), 2014 |     |
I received a phone call today that my D is final.
I laughed. I felt light and happy and my only thought was, "It is finally over."
Ex texted that he will now work on his end (COBRA), and said "I wasn't sure if I should text you." I replied that I was fine and laughing. He said, "You are laughing??".
Yes. I. Am.
I have a date tomorrow night...with a very interesting man. Very. 
My, what a few years will do for a girl.
me...BS, 44 years old, 2 small kids
WS, 41, multiple gay affairs
M 15 years, together 17
Divorced
Posts: 4421 | Registered: Dec 2010 | From: South |
phmh
♀ 34146
Member # 34146 | | Posted: 5:34 PM, June 30th (Monday), 2014 | |
I'm so happy for you to have this final piece done. Congrats and have fun tomorrow 
Me: BW, divorced, now fabulous and happy!
Married: 11 years, no kids
Character is destiny
Posts: 3687 | Registered: Dec 2011 |
jo2love
♀ 31528
Member # 31528 | | Posted: 6:00 PM, June 30th (Monday), 2014 | |
Congrats!!! I hope you have a great time on your date.
Posts: 38199 | Registered: Mar 2011 |
thebighurt
♀ 34722
Member # 34722 | | Posted: 8:22 PM, June 30th (Monday), 2014 | |
Congratulatory hugs, ((((cmego))))!! I know that feeling and felt the same. Total relief and feeling light and free. Enjoy your new life.
Finding what life could have been....... Why didn't I see it?
Posts: 2735 | Registered: Feb 2012 | From: the Other Side |
FaithFool
♀ 20150
Member # 20150 | | Posted: 8:23 PM, June 30th (Monday), 2014 | |
DDay: June 15, 2008
Mistakenly married Mr. Superfreak
20 years of OWs, WTF?
Divorced Dec 26, 2011
"Life is a shipwreck, but we must not forget
to sing in the lifeboats". -- Voltaire
Posts: 18094 | Registered: Jul 2008 | From: Canada |
cayc
♀ 21964
Member # 21964 | | Posted: 9:03 PM, June 30th (Monday), 2014 | |
"I'm not afraid of storms, for I'm learning how to sail my ship." - Louisa May Alcott
Posts: 3287 | Registered: Dec 2008 | From: Mexico |
Williesmom
♀ 22870
Member # 22870 | | Posted: 9:50 PM, June 30th (Monday), 2014 | |
Yay! So glad for you.
You can stuff your sorries in a sack, mister. -George Costanza
There is a special place in hell for women who don't help other women. - Madeleine Albright
Posts: 7979 | Registered: Feb 2009 | From: Western PA |
SBB
♀ 35229
Member # 35229 | | Posted: 10:10 PM, June 30th (Monday), 2014 | |
WOOWHOO!
FINALLY!! Was my reaction.
I may have reached a point where I'd piss on him if he was on fire.... eventually!!
Posts: 5840 | Registered: Apr 2012 | From: Australia |
caregiver9000
♀ 28622
Member # 28622 | | Posted: 10:17 PM, June 30th (Monday), 2014 | |
moving on. Welcome to the rest of your life.
Me: 44, independent, happy, despite co-parenting with a lower muppet
FT "Stretch" (and Skew!) ;)
DS 13 DS 10
S 5/2010
D 12/2012
Posts: 6044 | Registered: May 2010 | From: a better place |
tryingagain74
♀ 33698
Member # 33698 | | Posted: 10:45 PM, June 30th (Monday), 2014 | |
Congrats! *hitting the like button*
FBS; now happily liberated!
Two DS and One DD
It matters not how strait the gate,/How charged with punishments the scroll./I am the master of my fate:/I am the captain of my soul.--"Invictus," William Ernest Henley
Posts: 3723 | Registered: Oct 2011 |
PurpleRose
♀ 33129
Member # 33129 | | Posted: 10:49 PM, June 30th (Monday), 2014 | |
*like*
Wait, cross that out.
*love!!*
divorced the Dooosh
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even if you find your voice,
sometimes it does not matter anymore,
when you speak to a man who is deaf by choice.
~dodinsky
Posts: 3633 | Registered: Aug 2011 | From: Happyville |
Ms_Strong
♀ 30883
Member # 30883 | | Posted: 4:06 AM, July 1st (Tuesday), 2014 | |
I remember seeing your handle on replies to my posts, and posts that I replied to over the years.
I'm so happy for you! That's great. Congratulations!
I was so relieved when my D was official too. My XH cried on the day. How 'bout that.
Me: 40, happily divorced Dec11
D-Day #1 - 9th Jan 11, D-Day #2 - 13th Jan 11
Kids - 4, 8 yrs
Posts: 276 | Registered: Jan 2011 |
brokeninfl
♀ 21896
Member # 21896 | | Posted: 8:10 AM, July 1st (Tuesday), 2014 | |
*like*
Wait, cross that out.
*love!!*
^^^^^
This!
I'm so happy for you!!
"On the other side of fear lies freedom"
Me - 36 BS
Him - doesn't matter
2 DS
DD 11/08
Divorced.
Posts: 1074 | Registered: Dec 2008 |
Amazonia
♀ 32810
Member # 32810 | | Posted: 9:07 AM, July 1st (Tuesday), 2014 | |
Congrats!!!
Do you feel differently? I know your long separation was different from many that we see here (struggling to finish the divorce/fight the fight, whereas your was voluntary to finish school, with an extremely strong separation agreement in place and all the arguments knocked out), so I was curious if it felt as monumentous as some of the "victory" divorces?
"You yourself deserve your love and affection as much as anybody in the universe." -Buddha
"Let's face it, life is a crap shoot." -Sad in AZ
Posts: 14043 | Registered: Jul 2011 |
cmego
♀ 30346
Member # 30346 | | Posted: 10:32 AM, July 1st (Tuesday), 2014 | |
Ama...
Yeah, actually I do feel different. It was a long fight with him, even fighting when I filed (he tried to change the PSA one last time), but I was able to not be emotional about the fighting since I'm so detached. Does that make sense? My IC says I treat him like a buzzing fly, annoying...but out of my head as soon as I brush him off.
It is a "free" feeling. I don't know how to explain it. Not a victory, but just...free.
And nervous about this date tonight. This man is different. A "real" date at a nice restaurant and drinks afterwards at a wine bar. We shall see. [This message edited by cmego at 12:57 PM, July 1st (Tuesday)]
me...BS, 44 years old, 2 small kids
WS, 41, multiple gay affairs
M 15 years, together 17
Divorced
Posts: 4421 | Registered: Dec 2010 | From: South |
WeepingBuddhist
♀ 39139
Member # 39139 | | Posted: 1:32 PM, July 1st (Tuesday), 2014 | |
Congratulations!!!
Me: BS 46
Him: unimportant
D Day:4-27-13
DIVORCED!!! 2-20-14
Posts: 733 | Registered: Apr 2013 | From: Columbus |
Lonelygirl10
♀ 39850
Member # 39850 | | Posted: 2:36 PM, July 1st (Tuesday), 2014 | |
Have fun on your date tonight
30 Bgf
Dday: April 2013
Relationship ended: January 2014
Posts: 1397 | Registered: Jul 2013 |
Amazonia
♀ 32810
Member # 32810 | | Posted: 7:55 PM, July 1st (Tuesday), 2014 | |
Love it :) I hope the new free feeling bodes well for your dating as well!
"You yourself deserve your love and affection as much as anybody in the universe." -Buddha
"Let's face it, life is a crap shoot." -Sad in AZ
Posts: 14043 | Registered: Jul 2011 |
nowiknow23
♀ 33226
Member # 33226 | | Posted: 8:08 PM, July 1st (Tuesday), 2014 | |
Free is lovely. Congrats, honey.
We'll be waiting up for the debrief when you get in from your date. Don't miss curfew.
You can call me NIK
“The most difficult times for many of us are the ones we give ourselves.”
― Pema Chödrön
Posts: 28177 | Registered: Aug 2011 |
cmego
♀ 30346
Member # 30346 | | Posted: 9:07 PM, July 1st (Tuesday), 2014 | |
Date went well He asked me out again and I accepted.
I didn't get major butterflies, but more of a secure calmness..which I take as a good sign. I enjoyed his company, I though he was very cute and am looking forward to spending more time with him.
Yeah!
me...BS, 44 years old, 2 small kids
WS, 41, multiple gay affairs
M 15 years, together 17
Divorced
Posts: 4421 | Registered: Dec 2010 | From: South |
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