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cmego (original poster member #30346) posted at 11:26 PM on Monday, June 30th, 2014
I received a phone call today that my D is final.
I laughed. I felt light and happy and my only thought was, "It is finally over."
Ex texted that he will now work on his end (COBRA), and said "I wasn't sure if I should text you." I replied that I was fine and laughing. He said, "You are laughing??".
Yes. I. Am.
I have a date tomorrow night...with a very interesting man. Very. 
My, what a few years will do for a girl.
me...BS, 46 years old.
Divorced
phmh ( member #34146) posted at 11:34 PM on Monday, June 30th, 2014
I'm so happy for you to have this final piece done. Congrats and have fun tomorrow 
Me: BW, divorced, now fabulous and happy!
Married: 11 years, no kids
Character is destiny
jo2love ( member #31528) posted at 12:00 AM on Tuesday, July 1st, 2014
Congrats!!! I hope you have a great time on your date.
thebighurt ( member #34722) posted at 2:22 AM on Tuesday, July 1st, 2014
Congratulatory hugs, ((((cmego))))!! I know that feeling and felt the same. Total relief and feeling light and free. Enjoy your new life.
Finding what life could have been....... Why didn't I see it?
FaithFool ( member #20150) posted at 2:23 AM on Tuesday, July 1st, 2014
DDay: June 15, 2008
Mistakenly married Mr. Superfreak
20 years of OWs, WTF?
Divorced Dec 26, 2011
"Life is a shipwreck, but we must not forget
to sing in the lifeboats". -- Voltaire
cayc ( member #21964) posted at 3:03 AM on Tuesday, July 1st, 2014
Williesmom ( member #22870) posted at 3:50 AM on Tuesday, July 1st, 2014
You can stuff your sorries in a sack, mister. -George Costanza
There is a special place in hell for women who don't help other women. - Madeleine Albright
SBB ( member #35229) posted at 4:10 AM on Tuesday, July 1st, 2014
WOOWHOO!
FINALLY!! Was my reaction.
I may have reached a point where I'd piss on him if he was on fire.... eventually!!
caregiver9000 ( member #28622) posted at 4:17 AM on Tuesday, July 1st, 2014
moving on. Welcome to the rest of your life.
Me: fortysomething, independent, happy,
XH "Stretch" (and Skew!) ;)
two kids, teens. Old enough I am truly NO CONTACT w/ NPD zebraduck
S 5/2010
D 12/2012
tryingagain74 ( member #33698) posted at 4:45 AM on Tuesday, July 1st, 2014
Congrats! *hitting the like button*
FBS; now happily liberated!
Two DS and One DD
It matters not how strait the gate,/How charged with punishments the scroll./I am the master of my fate:/I am the captain of my soul.--"Invictus," William Ernest Henley
PurpleRose ( member #33129) posted at 4:49 AM on Tuesday, July 1st, 2014
*like*
Wait, cross that out.
*love!!*
divorced the Dooosh 8/13
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Dance like nobody is watching,
Text and email like it will be used in court someday...
Ms_Strong ( member #30883) posted at 10:06 AM on Tuesday, July 1st, 2014
I remember seeing your handle on replies to my posts, and posts that I replied to over the years.
I'm so happy for you! That's great. Congratulations!
I was so relieved when my D was official too. My XH cried on the day. How 'bout that.
Me: 40, happily divorced Dec11
D-Day #1 - 9th Jan 11, D-Day #2 - 13th Jan 11
Kids - 4, 8 yrs
brokeninfl ( member #21896) posted at 2:10 PM on Tuesday, July 1st, 2014
*like*
Wait, cross that out.
*love!!*
^^^^^
This!
I'm so happy for you!!
"On the other side of fear lies freedom"
Me - 39 BS
Him - doesn't matter
2 DS
DD 11/08
Divorced.
Amazonia ( member #32810) posted at 3:07 PM on Tuesday, July 1st, 2014
Congrats!!!
Do you feel differently? I know your long separation was different from many that we see here (struggling to finish the divorce/fight the fight, whereas your was voluntary to finish school, with an extremely strong separation agreement in place and all the arguments knocked out), so I was curious if it felt as monumentous as some of the "victory" divorces?
"You yourself deserve your love and affection as much as anybody in the universe." -Buddha
"Let's face it, life is a crap shoot." -Sad in AZ
cmego (original poster member #30346) posted at 4:32 PM on Tuesday, July 1st, 2014
Ama...
Yeah, actually I do feel different. It was a long fight with him, even fighting when I filed (he tried to change the PSA one last time), but I was able to not be emotional about the fighting since I'm so detached. Does that make sense? My IC says I treat him like a buzzing fly, annoying...but out of my head as soon as I brush him off.
It is a "free" feeling. I don't know how to explain it. Not a victory, but just...free.
And nervous about this date tonight. This man is different. A "real" date at a nice restaurant and drinks afterwards at a wine bar. We shall see.
[This message edited by cmego at 12:57 PM, July 1st (Tuesday)]
me...BS, 46 years old.
Divorced
WeepingBuddhist ( member #39139) posted at 7:32 PM on Tuesday, July 1st, 2014
Me: BS 46
Him: unimportant
D Day:4-27-13
DIVORCED!!! 2-20-14
Lonelygirl10 ( member #39850) posted at 8:36 PM on Tuesday, July 1st, 2014
Have fun on your date tonight
Amazonia ( member #32810) posted at 1:55 AM on Wednesday, July 2nd, 2014
Love it :) I hope the new free feeling bodes well for your dating as well!
"You yourself deserve your love and affection as much as anybody in the universe." -Buddha
"Let's face it, life is a crap shoot." -Sad in AZ
nowiknow23 ( member #33226) posted at 2:08 AM on Wednesday, July 2nd, 2014
Free is lovely. Congrats, honey.
We'll be waiting up for the debrief when you get in from your date. Don't miss curfew.
You can call me NIK
And never grow a wishbone, daughter, where your backbone ought to be.
― Sarah McMane
cmego (original poster member #30346) posted at 3:07 AM on Wednesday, July 2nd, 2014
Date went well He asked me out again and I accepted.
I didn't get major butterflies, but more of a secure calmness..which I take as a good sign. I enjoyed his company, I though he was very cute and am looking forward to spending more time with him.
Yeah!
me...BS, 46 years old.
Divorced
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