[This message edited by BrokenPiecesofMe at 9:45 AM, July 1st (Tuesday)]
How do we change that? I went to therapy, it didn't work for me the way I had hoped. I have books that Ive read. Maybe I need to read some more. My WS said the other night that he was going to talk to a counselor & I just encouraged it. But I cant do it for him. But if he doesnt figure out why he did what he did, im afraid he will continue to do it. Not because I've taken him back, but because there is more to it, it is not just surface level.
Im scared of losing him, im trying to step back today. Seeing as I have FREAKED out the last couple of days on him. He doesnt want to talk to me at the moment. He said I am too much to handle right now. & it just hurts.
I am sending you hugs.
I can't tell if it's killing me or making me stronger
Don't kick me when I'm down because when I get back up you are f****d!
Agree unless the wayward is all in R is a complete mindfuck.
Even if they are all in, it's a mindfuck. The lack of trust and security will do a number on anyone, and in the first year, WS all in or not, it's hard to not think about the A every second of every day. The A completely shatters our worlds. Nothing is as it was, nothing. Learning and accepting this new reality takes time.