It is very hard!
I finally met a nice gal here in my new neighborhood (after living here almost 2 years), and it happened only because she's very outgoing and we both have dogs about the same size and a month apart in age, so there was some instant common ground as we bumped into each other while out dog walking.
She'd been coming over to my house with her tween daughter and their dog because my yard is fenced in so our dogs (and her daughter) can run and run and wear themselves out, and she and I would sit and chat.
It was great!
All of the sudden a couple weeks ago, *poof*!
I texted a couple times to see if she was okay, received polite replies that something horrible happened and thanks for checking on her. Now I see her actually trying to avoid me while out on walks.
Honestly, I'm totally befuddled and I'm sure it's nothing I did, so I simply don't get it. But she knows where I live...
Another friend who used to get together with me for estate sales and coffee once a week or so has taken up serious hiking/running (way more than I'm interested in doing, esp with my bum foot), so now we never get together because apparently her foray into hiking all the time is more important to her. We used to also trade long emails. Now she's informed me that it's too hard for her to email because she's on only her iPhone or iPad and typing's difficult. I think of all the stuff we used to do together and these changes make me really sad, but part of my own NB is not changing myself to please other people like I used to do... I don't want to start hiking and trying to carry on a friendship via texts all the time...
Yeah, it's really hard.