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User Topic: Day 6 of 180 - Divorce Attorney or Mediator?
♀ 43810
Member # 43810
Default  Posted: 1:17 PM, July 1st (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

[This message edited by mamajen00 at 6:28 PM, July 22nd (Tuesday)]

BS- me 37
WH- him 38
1 son - almost 5
Married 8 years
Together 13 years
DDay 4/19/14
9 months of intense EA
2 days of PA

Posts: 58 | Registered: Jun 2014
Member # 42558
Default  Posted: 1:29 PM, July 1st (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I personally don't think its possible to negotiate with people who lie, cheat and deceive.

I would go with the attorney. You need to protect yourself.

Good luck and good for you sticking to NC and not standing for this kind of treatment.

Posts: 1289 | Registered: Feb 2014
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Member # 26358
Default  Posted: 1:44 PM, July 1st (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Mediation only works when both partners are interested in divorce and in reaching a reasonable settlement.

A good lawyer can effect that result even when both partners aren't on the same page.

I'm not a big believer in mediators early in the process. Too many emotions at this stage.

When someone tells you who she is, listen; when someone shows you who she is, listen carefully.

Posts: 1921 | Registered: Nov 2009 | From: Midwest
♀ 21101
Member # 21101
Default  Posted: 2:46 PM, July 1st (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Personally, I say it would be crazy to use a mediator in Divorce, unless you have nothing to loose, no home no kid no pension, no savings.

Otherwise you will get screwed, it will drag out for a longer time, and you will end up having to hire an attorney anyway.

This man has proven one thing. His word is useless, so him saying he wants to work it out without lawyers really means, give me everything I want, and let me do whatever I want when I want, and if you don't then we are going to have a problem, and you are the unreasonable one.

I say it's well worth the money now. He will know you aren't to be messed with, that you are strong, and that you are not going to take this lying down.

Him: FWS
Kids: 18 & 20
Married for 22 years now, was 16 at the time. .
D-Day Sept 26 2008
R'd in about 2 years. Old Vet now.

Posts: 13424 | Registered: Oct 2008 | From: St. Louis
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