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Helen of Troy posted 7/1/2014 16:04 PM

Today first thing I sit down and she says "Hi Helen of Troy!" I mumble a hello in return just to be polite and kept head held high in dignified silence style. I talked to the woman in front of me about a few course concepts who is older than me so immature girl knows I'm not afraid to talk.

My point here it is as if it weren't for infidelity that led to divorce, I doubt I'd have the nerve to stand up in this type of situation. When she first said the rude things not knowing I was sitting there for brief moment I thought about not saying anything then finding a seat at the back. I am proud to have stuck it out and didn't shrink from her rudeness.
I get the vibe she realizes now SHE is the one who screwed up socially and feels very stupid herself. If she emails me again about the class, she's filtered to the trash unread. Crickets!

Don't shrink SI folks. It is scary and uncomfortable but don't run away or hide. Then, you win in a dignified, classy and mature way.

better4me posted 7/1/2014 17:49 PM

Sad in AZ posted 7/1/2014 18:50 PM

I get the vibe she realizes now SHE is the one who screwed up socially and feels very stupid herself. If she emails me again about the class, she's filtered to the trash unread. Crickets!

No second chances? Yes, she was an ass, but if she's young, perhaps your giving her her comeupance made a big impression. This could be a teachable moment turning a young idiot into a thoughtful young woman...

persevere posted 7/1/2014 20:28 PM

This could be a teachable moment turning a young idiot into a thoughtful young woman...

As the mom of a 22 yr old student I can see this as an opportunity for you, actually your first action may have already accomplished it. To SAZ's point, we all make mistakes, and you did the right thing by making her aware of it, but you have an opportunity here to consider.

However, if you choose not to, that's okay too - your call - but glad you're feeling better about it all.

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