So that is why him telling me that all this was is friend just doesn't go over with me. I know he is lying. I am not stupid. How the fuck could he do this to me? Especially while pregnant. And he won't talk about it with me. He gets defensive and says how about I do this to you & dig up dirt on you. So basically he's acting guilty & suspicious. He told me we could go to counseling. That was horrible, the guy legit talked about himself the whole entire time. I canceled our 2nd appointment & am looking for another. I've tried to forgive him and move on, but I am so angry. I just need him to be honest. But that will never happen .... Advice? Please :(
A little background..
My husband and I have been married just over a year, and have a beautiful little girl who is almost 3 weeks old. We have gone through a lot in this short time, including his deployment, which brought him home early due to medical reasons. That was very hard on us. He was recovering and dealing with PTSD, we were in a little funk getting readjusted, I had to pack up and quit my job, find an apartment and get everything ready and move it all by myself in 2 weeks 18 hours from home. It was very difficult. Soon after he got back I became pregnant. And the pregnancy was hard on us, a few scares for sure.
[This message edited by BeanTownMama at 9:28 AM, July 2nd (Wednesday)]
Why is this happening to me ?
Take some time and read the Healing Library in the yellow box (upper left corner). There's a lot of information to take in, esp being a new mama!
I think you're in a tough spot, and it sucks, when he won't tell you anything and denies everything. Read up about the 180- it is important for you to protect yourself and your little right now. Therapy is great- if he's willing to be open and honest, if not, then quite honestly it's a waste of money. It may also be worth it to talk to a lawyer- find out your rights just in case.
Love your squish and take care of yourself.
Me- BW, 30
Him- fWh, 36
Mostly R'd, minus a few scars...bought a house and got a puppy...And baby makes 3! She arrived August 2013
And sadly your right.. Counseling will be no good if he won't be open and honest..
Sadly a lot of men cheat while their wives are pregnant, despicable but true, I am so sorry this is happening when you have your beautiful baby to take care of and love.
I would require HE go to individual counseling before you consider really giving this a chance. You can take a break (live in separate homes) and see if you want to R. Being around your friends and family will help too.
I'm so sorry you are going through this, especially at this joyful time in your life. Talk about PTSD, YOU will have it from his actions during this time in your life.