No R. D FILED.
I don't understand these men who leave their pregnant wives/newborn babies. And this other woman sat by and watched him get married and have a baby and STILL wants him???
I see a trainwreck ahead.
I am like you right now though. Mind movies. Just last week, he was planning a future with me, discussing our future home, future plans, etc. This week, he is moving out with her. I am a firm believer in karma. And I do believe your's will get his.
I'm so sorry
I have no advice :( For me, playing it over and over sometimes makes it worse and sometimes it helps me work through it.
I'm an ethnographer and for 10 years tried to improve my abilities to remember conversations, document interactions, piece together stories, find patterns between interactions and events, going over and over things to fill in more details.
My husband finds me pouring over text logs, carefully noting patterns like who said good morning to whom first, who initiated contact after a break first, the frequency of when things were happening... I keep open parallel windows tracking dates and my timeline of my life (on my fb, I love photography so I have a ton of pictures, nearly one for each day) to note days off, what we were doing, where we were wen this was happening.
It's like compulsive to fill in more and more and more. And sometimes I get stuck and it just hurts. Sometimes it helps me heal to work through it and put those pieces there.
WOW! Thatís pretty much what I do too. The OW sent me a gigantic pattern of all the texts exchanged, and he was the initiator of most of the exchanges. And then as you, I note the date, and remember what we were doing that day, and the lame excuse he used that evening to not be with me, but to go to dinner with her. I canít throw any of it out bc itís all evidence so itís like a torture device.