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User Topic: Please no more idk
mattolivia
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Default  Posted: 8:53 PM, July 2nd (Wednesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

She keeps saying she doesn't know why she cheated. she doesn't know whats going on in her head.


Hunter

Posts: 10 | Registered: Jul 2014 | From: Ohio
Badhurt
♂ 41947
Member # 41947
Default  Posted: 8:58 PM, July 2nd (Wednesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

She has done this to you twice now. Unless you want to live with it, the why is her problem not yours.

What she is doing is not uncommon. She did it because she has no personal boundaries and because she wanted to. And she is a repeat offender.

You have to make you own decision, but she is regretful she got caught, period.


Posts: 1097 | Registered: Jan 2014 | From: Eastern USA
mattolivia
43938
Member # 43938
Default  Posted: 9:01 PM, July 2nd (Wednesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

it crazy she remembers him using protection but can't remember if she took her ring off.


Hunter

Posts: 10 | Registered: Jul 2014 | From: Ohio
Badhurt
♂ 41947
Member # 41947
Default  Posted: 9:03 PM, July 2nd (Wednesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

She banged him. Why does it matter if her ring was on or off. Would it make you feel better if she banged him with the ring on???

You need to get tested for STD. You can also thank her for that.


Posts: 1097 | Registered: Jan 2014 | From: Eastern USA
craig2001
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Default  Posted: 10:10 PM, July 2nd (Wednesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

She keeps saying she doesn't know why she cheated. she doesn't know whats going on in her head.
Tell her she needs to start getting some answers. And she needs therapy.

I dont know is the favorite answer of people who really do know the answer, but they dont want you to know the answer.


Posts: 4454 | Registered: Jun 2002
NeverAgain2013
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Default  Posted: 6:33 AM, July 3rd (Thursday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I agree with Badhurt. She's a repeat offender and did it again because she wanted to. Some people just need to have excitement in their lives. There doesn't always have to be some deep, dark psychological reason for everything people do.

Are you going to forgive her again?

And don't believe the bull-crap story about them using protection. Get a full STD screening and make sure SHE gets one as well.


Be careful - that 'knight in shining armor' may very well be nothing more than an assclown wrapped in tin foil.
ME: 50+ years old and cute as a button :-)
Ex-WBF: Just a lying, cheating, gravy-sucking pig - and I left him in 2012.

Posts: 1958 | Registered: Jan 2013 | From: USA
Splitter
♂ 43957
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Default  Posted: 11:20 AM, July 3rd (Thursday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

My ex-fiancÚ "doesn't know why she did it" either. She also says she "panicked". Basically, she wanted to fuck this guy a bunch, and figured she wouldn't get caught, so why not? First time she ever cheated on me, she was deeply sorry she got caught. Second time she was deeply sorry for the pain she caused me - for about a week. Now she has moved on to being deeply sorry for herself, because she got caught, and is alone.

[This message edited by Splitter at 11:22 AM, July 3rd (Thursday)]


35 yr old Canadian guy.

Posts: 59 | Registered: Jul 2014 | From: Eastern Canada
Lucky2HaveMe
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Default  Posted: 1:57 PM, July 3rd (Thursday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

it crazy she remembers him using protection but can't remember if she took her ring off.

She remembers. She doesn't want to tell you. Honestly, does it matter? If she left it on, that sucks. If she took it off, that sucks.

And she doesn't know why she did it because she hasn't truly peeled back her layers to get to her core being. Until she does that, it will remain a mystery to everyone and the cycle will rinse/repeat.

I don't know your story, others say this is her 2nd time? Did she do any work on herself through IC before? You need to determine what your requirements for R will be - if you are considering R - and what the consequences will be if she does not meet them. You don't have to do that right now, but that's the thought process you need to begin with yourself.


Love isn't what you say, it's what you do.

Posts: 6773 | Registered: Jan 2007 | From: WNY
confused615
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Default  Posted: 2:08 PM, July 3rd (Thursday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Chances are, there was no protection used. Please get tested for STD'S.


She did it because she is selfish, because she could, and because th last time it was rugswept, so she had very little consequences.

What are you doing differently this time?


BS(me)42
FWH 45
4 kids
M: June 2001
D-Day: 8/10/10
Status: Reconciled.

..that feeling you get in your stomach, when you heart's broken. It's like all the butterflies just died.


Posts: 8098 | Registered: Jan 2011 | From: Indiana
Yakamishi
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Default  Posted: 10:12 PM, July 3rd (Thursday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I did get better. But...

Get used to the IDKs. I still get that after two years.

Looooong road.


Me: BH
Her: WW Mrs.yaka
Kids:4
Variouse clues to EA. WW promised it would stop.
D-Day of EA 9/13/2012 2:01PM found 2 yrs of text messages, confessed to EA
D-Day of PA: confessed on 9/22/12 11:53 PM. Worst moment of my life

Posts: 222 | Registered: Jan 2013 | From: Massachusetts
WinterBranch
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Default  Posted: 11:27 PM, July 3rd (Thursday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

You may never get a different response. My ex betrayed me with MOW, spent all the cash out of our business, and ran up my personal credit. All I get is IDK from him...

Please release your expectation of a defense, because there is none.


Me: Woman. In. Pain.
Him: Skittle-Sucking Toad and Con-Man.

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