My stbxw and I are staying separated and continuing the divorce (my choice). She has committed to IC, NC, and to work on our relationship one day at a time. Things are going well, we are talking a lot, and both continue to work on ourselves.
I need to vent a bit so that I don't over react with her. She had the affair with her coworker who has since move to a different area in the company's building. She has blocked his number and has had complete transparency with me since. She told me she told him it was over and to never contact her again or see her at work. Thing is, he has since left two voicemails weeks apart. The first voicemail fully indicated she was not speaking to him. The second, which just happened yesterday, sounds like a very casual, "goodmonring, give me a call back sometime." I confronted her on it and she said she never got the voicemail (I can check on her account online). I deleted the voicemail but saved it to my computer.
I want to trust her, but a red flag has been raised. I asked her in a text that what would make this all go away, ease my doubts, and mean the world to me, was if she would now call him back in front of me and reinforce her original demand to never contact her again or she would take action as she would any stalker. I am curious to what her response will be.
I know if she refuses it would create a TON of problems for me internally, and I think would end our R. If she agrees: has anyone done this with the WS before? What do you recommend I do/don't do when she calls him? I could just really use some support right now.
Thank you so MUCH in advance!!!