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So this might just be a gripe session but I need to talk about it and get it some input here. My WW and I don't get to see each other much, only really 2 days during the week cause of my schedule now. I decided to do a little experiment cause I was noticing a trend. I wasn't kiss her, I was going to wait for her to do it. Well 3 hours after she got home she said to me, " you know I haven't gotten a kiss yet " My response was,"well kiss me then" We only kissed about 4 times in 24 hours. This is the trend I'm noticing - I need to initiate everything. Many times I'm the one going for the first kiss in the evening, asking to send pics either cute selfies or NSFW, or being physical. I'm so tired of this!!! Last night I asked her if she wanted to take a bath, she said no and just did her nails instead.

There's a few times I've told her that sometimes I feel like we're just roommates, obviously she doesn't like that but its true. Times when I'm trying to be loving and give a nice kiss, she's dicking around.

Who knows, maybe I just have too high of expectations for my 2 days off. I just don't want to be married to a roommate, I want the girl that I use to know and be excited to see me and be more affectionate. I'm done initiating things and let's see how long it goes on for before she actually sees what's going on.

Have you told her that you want her to initiate?

All the time. She'll do good for a day or two and then nothing until I mention it again.

There's some kind of a problem. I can almost guarantee that her affair(s) are related to it. The adultery is most likely a result of the same underlying problem.

She needs to get herself to IC and figure this out, and sooner, rather than later. It is unfair of her to expect you to live like this.

I have the same issue , I don't even kiss her anymore and she doesn't even ask. we have no physical connection . sad

It is sad that there is no physical connection between you two, not even kisses. Honestly if it ever got to that point, it may just be over. It sucks cause of how we use to be, all excitement, adventitious. I understand as time goes on things change but at least make it seem like you care about me. Actions speak louder than words. The thing that scares me is that it was so easy for her to go off and cheat on me, whats stopping me from doing the same. I've told her I need certain things in order for me to get through what she did to me like feeling loved, wanted, needed. In my mind, she obviously doesn't want to do that so why is she still around?