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inshockandhurt (original poster member #38789) posted at 12:58 AM on Friday, July 4th, 2014
Does anyone else ever get so sad it feels like it's hard to move? I feel like that today. I am so sad and my limbs feel heavy and I just want to lay down and sleep.
Me: 36 BS
Him:38 FWH
Dday 8 years ago
2 sons 1 daughter
Reconciled
Forgiveness means understanding, acceptance, and giving up on looking back.
3kids30years ( member #38879) posted at 1:04 AM on Friday, July 4th, 2014
I hear you.
Some days I just lie on my bed and space out, try not to think. Just be me 
Looks like we joined about the same time - maybe it's a phase?
BW - 52 on Dday
WH - 53 on Dday
DDay - 3/2/13 - 2:07pm 2+ year EA/PA
TT until 2016 - why do they do that?
Trust is earned, respect is given, & loyalty is demonstrated. Betrayal of any one is to loose all three.
FixYou71 ( member #42654) posted at 1:09 AM on Friday, July 4th, 2014
Oh yes. Many, many times. Heartache is exhausting and takes its toll.
Im sorry you're hurting so much today. If you can, just let it ride. Feel what you need and sleep if you're sleepy. Take care of yourself.
BS:44
H: 50
Dday #1 Oct 2007 (Porn for 2 yrs)
Dday #2 May 2013 (Porn for 5 more yrs))
Dday#3 May 2014 (finally admitted to drunk kissing OW in 1994: the 2nd drunken kiss with another woman during our M)
DD 22 and DS 18
Married 1993
ItsJust2Painful ( new member #43973) posted at 1:24 AM on Friday, July 4th, 2014
More times than not. The only thing that helps me is...moving.
Me: BW, 28 Him: WH, 29 DD: 11/21/2013 EA/PA with COW 6 months while I was pregnant with DS1, EAs/cybersex our entire 4 yr relationship/M he got fired for being a "sexual predator" - many OAs were with COWs; DS#1 born 8/13, DS#2 born 9/14
Chrysalis123 ( member #27148) posted at 2:03 AM on Friday, July 4th, 2014
Yes, it happened to me. I have learned to listen to my body. If I feel like laying in a fetal position on the floor I do so. Of course I also get help from books, SI, therapy.
With me if I pretend like the feelings aren't there and rug sweep, those darn feelings come back only worse.
I try to feel and process those feelings the first time. It does take time to get through the shit sandwich we were served. But I tell you, it is a lot better on the other side. 
Someone I once loved gave me/ a box full of darkness/ It took me years to understand/ That this, too, was a gift. - Mary Oliver
Just for the record darling, not all positive changes feel positive in the beginning -S C Lourie
MissTrust ( member #43549) posted at 11:50 AM on Friday, July 4th, 2014
All the time 
I want to sleep all the time too
Blanket ( member #43881) posted at 1:10 PM on Friday, July 4th, 2014
It is literally paralysing at times. I can't move , talk, eat even simple tasks are a challenge.
Exhausting.
D day 20th may 2014
Me -BS (33)
HIM- WS (35)
OW- 18 yr old COW
Together 7 years, married 1
I can't tell if it's killing me or making me stronger
Don't kick me when I'm down because when I get back up you are f****d!
tfkeel ( member #19517) posted at 1:33 PM on Friday, July 4th, 2014
It is literally paralysing at times. I can't move , talk, eat even simple tasks are a challenge.
It nearly ruined my relationship to a good client and took my business income significantly down the year of DD.
cantaccept ( member #37451) posted at 2:52 PM on Friday, July 4th, 2014
Oh yes, it seems that it hits when I really don't want it too.
If I could only feel like that at 4am!
Sometimes the exhaustion is overwhelming, on days off I have had to just lie down and then end up sleeping for 3 or 4 hours, unable to get up.
I just go with it when I can. I think our bodies need it.
"I'm still standing better than I ever did. Looking like a true survivor, feeling like a little kid" Elton John
I would now like to be known as Can!
dday October 21,2012
dday December 20, 2013
wh deleted
I attempted R, he was a lie
funnyguy ( member #43192) posted at 2:57 PM on Friday, July 4th, 2014
I know , sometimes I feel like I can't even feel the lower prt of my body.
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