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User Topic: Vent. Terrible, horrible, no good, very bad week
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Default  Posted: 9:25 PM, July 3rd (Thursday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I want to scream. And cry. And throw up. And kill somebody.


Tuesday, I had to work late. I was tired. Got home close to 8 pm. Washed clothes. Ate. Was in the bath tub after 11 when my phone rang. My mom's life alert was activated and she couldn't get off the floor and couldn't get my dad. (he's almost deaf and was in another room with the door closed.) Threw some clothes on, drove 20 minutes to my parents' house and met the ambulance there. Followed them to the hospital (45 minute drive) and was there all night. Nothing broken. She was dehydrated and they gave her some fluids and sent her home. Got to bed after 530 am. JM was wonderful...came as soon as he could get away from work and then met us at the house to help her walk in.

Slept most of yesterday. Then, last night I had a horrible flashback while watching SVU, of the wreck we saw last fall. All I could see was the boy's head in my hands and I couldn't catch my breath, couldn't stop crying. That really sucked. Then it took 2 hours to get to work this am (30 minute drive) because there was a fatal wreck on the interstate. Yeah, got to see that smashed up motorcycle.

Work was frustrating. More wrecks on the way home and JM and I had a massive communication malfunction that resulted in both of us being irritated and mad. Talked that out. Hugged. Smiled. Then discovered the boys had left a bag with $30 worth of stuff on the carousel at Walmart, so we rode back there. On the way, I picked up JM's phone and logged into his facebook.

And the first fucking thing I see is Whoreible's butt-nasty crypt keeper face.

WTF????????????? She's made a new fucking fb page in her maiden name. She was blocked but made this new page and apparently has been searching the hell out of him because she shows up first in his list of "people you may know."

He is NC. I have no doubt. Whatsoever.

But I really did not need to see her troll-looking, bleached blond, crooked teeth, trailer trash skanky looking piece of shit picture.

Not tonight.

He is wonderful. He was wonderful. We talked. He apologized again for bringing this into my life. For hurting me. He prayed and asked God to put my hurt and burdens on him instead of me. I love this man so much. And until tonight, I was okay with most of this stuff.

But I really pity the poor fool who next crosses me. Because they may end up in a little pile of grease and blood.

Me, 50. (How did THAT happen??)
Him, 42 (JMSSC)
married 20 years. In R. We are making it. The past does not define who we are today.

Posts: 3974 | Registered: Sep 2011 | From: South Carolina
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Default  Posted: 9:28 PM, July 3rd (Thursday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

(((((HFSSC))))) I'm so sorry, honey.

You can call me NIK

And never grow a wishbone, daughter, where your backbone ought to be.
― Sarah McMane

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Default  Posted: 9:49 PM, July 3rd (Thursday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I'm so sorry HFSSC, what a terrible day. But, you made me laugh with this little gem:
Whoreible's butt-nasty crypt keeper face


Me, BS, 58
Him, WS 61
D-Day June 2009
Watch my movie: "My wayward husband's adventures in STD land":
Episode 1:
Episode 2:

Posts: 7192 | Registered: Jan 2010 | From: Coastal South
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Default  Posted: 1:58 AM, July 4th (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

First off, love your title...I loved reading that book with my son when he was little!
Wow. What a sucky week you've had. When it rains it pours it seems huh? I'm sorry. I cant imagine what emotions must come up over the accident you witnessed. Those traumas can sneak back up when we least expect them. Then to see so many accidents right after your dream? That sucks.
I love that your H prayed for you. That touched my heart. What a blessing after a week like that to have a soft place to fall with a man who's got your back and backs up his words with actions. Love that. Thanks for sharing.
(Ps. Hope your mom is doing better!)

H: 50
Dday #1 Oct 2007 (Porn for 2 yrs)
Dday #2 May 2013 (Porn for 5 more yrs))
Dday#3 May 2014 (finally admitted to drunk kissing OW in 1994: the 2nd drunken kiss with another woman during our M)
DD 22 and DS 18
Married 1993

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Default  Posted: 10:05 AM, July 4th (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage


Sit. Feast on your life.

Posts: 4324 | Registered: Jan 2014 | From: NYC
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Default  Posted: 11:01 AM, July 4th (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

And the fun just keeps coming.

This morning JM found a friend request from a woman who is friends with Whoreible. Just "out of the blue." And he's been getting calls from an "unknown" number for a few weeks. Never answers them, and we didn't even imagine it would be her considering he has been completely NC for over 2 years now. The last fishing attempt from her was in October 2012.

At 5 am I was awakened by my niece, crying that all hell had broken loose at my sister's house. She has been trying to find some peace either with or without my BIL. I posted about them about a month ago. She is the representative payee for his disability and he has been blowing through their money every month instead of paying bills. She had enough, so yesterday went to the bank and withdrew most of the money, opening another account at another bank to protect their funds and be able to pay the mortgage. He went ballistic last night and it ended up with my 17 year old nephew pushing her (which my asshole BIL LAUGHED AT) then my 12 year old nephew trying to protect her and getting shoved by the little psychopath 17 year old. My niece tried to intervene and my BIL and nephew threatened to call police and file assault charges against my sister and niece.

OMG y'all, I am LOSING it here.

I came completely unglued this am. Messaged the "friend" who sent JM a fb request, messaged Whoreible herself and sent friend requests to her "fiance" and everybody in her family. "Friend" messaged me back that she didn't want any of this drama. WTF? Should have picked better friends then, you stupid bint.

Throw the 2X4s if you feel the need. I know. I know. I know.

But I gotta tell you, it was pretty satisfying to get all of this rage out of me into words and hit send.

Me, 50. (How did THAT happen??)
Him, 42 (JMSSC)
married 20 years. In R. We are making it. The past does not define who we are today.

Posts: 3974 | Registered: Sep 2011 | From: South Carolina
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Default  Posted: 11:03 AM, July 4th (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage


Just hugs Honey.

Praying for your family.

This is the hall of mirrors. Where you will face yourself. Buckle up.

"Courage is being scared to death and saddling up anyway." - J. Wayne

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tired girl
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Default  Posted: 11:52 AM, July 4th (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Hugs ((()))

Drama can be very draining, I am sorry you are going through this

Me 47 Him 47 Hardlessons
DS 27,25,23
D Day's becoming less important as time moves on.
"No one can make you feel inferior without your consent." Eleanor Roosevelt
My bad for trying to locate remorse on your morality map. OITNB

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Default  Posted: 11:53 AM, July 4th (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage


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Default  Posted: 12:51 PM, July 4th (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage


Your flashback triggered the heck out of me last night when I read this. I wanted to reply then to offer my understanding and prayers, but...well, better late than never I guess?

Sometimes it is all just too much. I so get that.

Praying for your family. Praying for you.

Just hugs.

DDay: October 7, 2011
R finally started in earnest: April 2014
Current status: If he won't make changes, I must.

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Default  Posted: 9:52 PM, July 4th (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage


Holy bat-shit crazy!!

Sometimes you have to wonder wtf people are thinking.

I am sorry there is so much around you guys right now, nobody needs the extra stress.

I hope the weekend brings some calm.


“And the day came when the risk to remain tight in a bud was more painful than the risk it took to blossom”
Anaïs Nin
Me: 45
Him: 47
Dday 8/2007
We have R'd

Posts: 4012 | Registered: Jun 2012 | From: Massachusetts
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Default  Posted: 11:39 AM, July 5th (Saturday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage


Maybe it's time to consider ditching the fb. I know it's hard to think about - I keep connected to a lot of important people there. I just hate to see you dealing with this at this far out.

Wish I could help. Sending big hugs.

"Don't give up, the beginning is always the hardest." - Deeply Scared's mom

Posts: 29076 | Registered: Feb 2011 | From: California
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Default  Posted: 11:56 AM, July 5th (Saturday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I am so sorry for all you have gone through....
I think FB is a major time sucker...
I deactivated mine a few months back...there are some peeps I miss but ummm once upon a time you picked up a phone to actually COMMUNICATE with someone...
try and step away from it for a month....
I hope things are better with your family...

3 adult children 1D 2S
LTA 2010-2012
D-day - 11-11-2012
status - reconciling and very hopeful

" I will not define myself by what went wrong yesterday when I can draw upon Life and Love right now." R.R

Posts: 2504 | Registered: Apr 2014 | From: sunny california
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Red  Posted: 1:03 PM, July 5th (Saturday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Aubrie and TiredGirl,

Please don't post on vent threads in here. It is against the forum description.

Thank you.

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Default  Posted: 2:45 PM, July 5th (Saturday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Oh I am so sorry...a few months ago that happened to me. I logged into my husband's facebook and first one under people you may know was OW#1 LTA...what a hit to the gut. ((((hugs)))) I understand losing it.

FBS, been through the D marathon too.
Many D Days in April 2009
Multiple affairs, LTAs, and many OWs
Reconciled... There is hope! :)

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Default  Posted: 9:19 AM, July 7th (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

It was really a bad day. Some of my friends gave FB as a couple- no individual ones. Until two years ago, I never really thought about it much. But it's a good idea when people from the past keep trying to invade.
I'm sorry she's circling.

D-day(s),after years of TT and Gaslighting was Labor Day Weekend 2012, continuing for a week after. *Dammit! More TT 3/9/13
Really trending toward D- planning about it is my "happy place" now.

Posts: 1292 | Registered: Sep 2012 | From: Sunny Florida
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