"You can survive this. Talk to others that have"

caregiver9000 posted 7/4/2014 01:06 AM

Mom...... what's masturbation?

I admit, I used the water to take an extra breath.

My answer made the 10 year old gag, and wince. Does that mean I answered it right?

Violated posted 7/4/2014 02:02 AM

OMG I remember those days! Sounds like you answered right.

My ds used to ask me things like that while I was driving and he was sitting behind me. I was so glad he couldn't see my face

caregiver9000 posted 7/4/2014 02:15 AM

I followed my explanation with "did you get this from your brother/brother's friend?" (all four boys spent time together today.)

DS stammered yes, NO! why?

Which led to me saying half to myself, "because they are the right age to be talking about such stuff or even doing it.... but that is something you do in private! Well it should be, although I have heard of boys "racing" or some such ..."

DS looks HORRIFIED. And he says, "I am going to go throw up now."

ah, boys...

jo2love posted 7/4/2014 10:05 AM

I'm glad he was comfortable asking you. I think my face would have been pink.

jrc1963 posted 7/4/2014 11:26 AM

He might be a little young yet to hear about "Circle Jerks".

My ex told me of this ritual, even tho the boys weren't gay they would sit in a circle and "jerk" each other off... I guess it's more fun with someone else's hand then your own...

I've not heard of "Racing" yet. (Thank God)

tesla posted 7/4/2014 17:42 PM

Well, shit. Glad I wasn't drinking water when I opened this thread!!!!

Time Ticks On posted 7/4/2014 20:08 PM

I picked my son up after a boyscout campout.He was also ten. His first question was "what is spank your monkey"? I believe if he is old enough to ask then he is old enough to be told..though only enough for his age . I explained what it was and other terms to call it. He thought it was funny. He repeated them over and over. My husband was mortified that I told him. I didn't expect him to ask me then so I would have choked if I had been drinking :)

caregiver9000 posted 7/5/2014 00:37 AM

I believe if he is old enough to ask then he is old enough to be told.

I believe this too.

It helped me that my first child was born with a scientific view of the world. He watched a lot of discovery channel and NatGeo. His questions seemed to demand a very factual response with the proper terminology.

I don't know but "spank your monkey" might have caused me to giggle...

painpaingoaway posted 7/5/2014 10:47 AM

and "jerk" each other off.

uh, um, not so sure about that jrc, I was always under the assumption that they jerked themselves off, not someone else. Yikes! Better go ask that question in the menz thread jrc, (if you can get anyone to answer it, lol!)

Time Ticks On posted 7/5/2014 10:51 AM

I googled it :)

A circle jerk is a sexual practice in which a group of men or boys form a circle and masturbate themselves or each other.

persevere posted 7/5/2014 13:31 PM

Circle Jerks - wasn't that an 80's band? Wow - I never knew that's what it meant.

caregiver9000 posted 7/5/2014 16:05 PM

I googled it :)

You are brave. I have this idea that my computer looks disapprovingly at me. But "google" is my favorite verb.

Of course, my mom would tell me to call the library. I did once, and the lady wrote down my question and my phone number and said she would "get back to me." She did in a few days but her answer wasn't very satisfying. Pre-google era: someday it will be an actual era, similar to prehistoric.

jrc1963 posted 7/6/2014 15:40 PM

uh, um, not so sure about that jrc

Well... I got it straight from the source... My ex apparently participated in this activity as a teen and he said in his group... they jerked off the guy next to you.

How other "circles" worked, I have no idea...

lynnm1947 posted 7/7/2014 11:16 AM

I was always under the assumption that they jerked themselves off, no.t someone else

Me, too. Have I had this wrong my whole life???????