Hi Delia. Very sorry you are here but welcome to SI. You are going to get hit with a lot of abbreviations here. You can find most of the abbreviations in the upper left corner in the Healing Library. Please check that section out here.
http://www.survivinginfidelity.com/library.asp
I'm going to hit you with the full suite of newbie threads so that you have them.
180 BS FAQ here which is designed for you to detach if you need to.
http://www.survivinginfidelity.com/faq_bs.asp#FAQ11
And more 180 info under the target thread here:
http://www.survivinginfidelity.com/forums.asp?tid=232785
I would also recommend reading these target threads in the Just Found Out forum:
Tactical Primer
http://www.survivinginfidelity.com/forums.asp?tid=235051
Great Posts for Newbies to Read
http://www.survivinginfidelity.com/forums.asp?tid=361740
Boundaries and Consequences 101 for all new BS
http://www.survivinginfidelity.com/forums.asp?tid=385631
Before You Say Reconcile...
http://www.survivinginfidelity.com/forums.asp?tid=406548
For the foggy, unremorseful, cake eaters:
20/20 Hindsight: What I should have done when I J F O
http://www.survivinginfidelity.com/forums.asp?tid
Keep posting. We are here for you.
yop