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delia1980 posted 7/4/2014 22:00 PM

Hello everyone, Im a new member to SI and Im soo relieved to have found people who have experienced the same or similar hurt I have (even a yr later)
Im real confused though. Im seeing posts where people are using abbreviations for themselves and their spouse, other man/woman, etc.
Can someone please maybe give me a list of those abbreviations?
I feel silly but I really want to tell my story.
Thank you!!

misskirby posted 7/4/2014 22:02 PM

Hi Delia. Welcome, and I'm sorry you find yourself needing to be here. There is an extensive list of abbreviations over in the Healing Library. That yellow box over to the left? Click on the Healing Library, and then at the top of that page, click on Abbreviations. Hope that helps.

Schadenfreude posted 7/4/2014 22:05 PM

Go to Healing Library which is above dr. Phil's face I. Yellow box

Go to FAQ

Go to abbreviations

Take no doze or drink lots of coffee.

You aren't requires to use abbreviations, but it does become natural.

Be careful,to post in the proper sub forum. If you just learned, JFO. If you are the cheater, Wayward. Etc. Or you will be chastised. Beware of stop signs, too, on the far left of thread titles.

yearsofpain25 posted 7/4/2014 22:08 PM

Hi Delia. Very sorry you are here but welcome to SI. You are going to get hit with a lot of abbreviations here. You can find most of the abbreviations in the upper left corner in the Healing Library. Please check that section out here.

I'm going to hit you with the full suite of newbie threads so that you have them.

180 BS FAQ here which is designed for you to detach if you need to.

And more 180 info under the target thread here:

I would also recommend reading these target threads in the Just Found Out forum:

Tactical Primer

Great Posts for Newbies to Read

Boundaries and Consequences 101 for all new BS

Before You Say Reconcile...

For the foggy, unremorseful, cake eaters:
20/20 Hindsight: What I should have done when I J F O

Keep posting. We are here for you.


MovingUpward posted 7/4/2014 22:16 PM

Welcome Delia

The others have posted links to a whole lot of information. I would encourage you to read some but not be afraid to just put any questions you have out here.

delia1980 posted 7/5/2014 01:41 AM

Thank you misskirby, schadenfreude, yearsofpain25 and movingupward. The info was very helpful. Im happy to be welcomed. I didnt just find out, but it consumes much of my thoughts a year later. Ughh

MrsDoubtfire posted 7/5/2014 05:39 AM

Delia- if you don't feel confident with the abbrevs just yet then don't use them. Long hand is okay and the healing library has a list you can refer to when receiving replies on here.

Also- don't be worried... soon those abbreviations will be second nature to you

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