My son actually exposed himself to a girl, when he was about that age. The father did not tell us he had, but went to the police. it was very upsetting because we got this phone call just before going on holiday.
I was very upset, and worried people would think something was going on in our home!
Social services stepped in because of the police. I was so upset that the parents had not told us. Social services also was upset at the parents of the girl because we had not been told and the police were contacted behind our backs. They said this is in fact more common than one thinks, and girls do it too, it was not a matter for worry. Case closed.
My son has autism and ADHD. The autism means he has trouble understanding what you can do in private versus what you can do in public. A typical autism problem. They will not be able to pick up from their parents or those around them normal social cues, like don't flash your privates in public. This can make it VERY hard for a parent, as other parents are judging them when their child does weird behaviours, like flashing or saying inappropriate things. An autistic child usually has a lot of trouble making friends. For my son, this girl was his first friend, and he ruined it by doing that. He was so upset and hurt. He had not meant anything by it, he was excited by his penis and wanted to show it off.
When he had this first friend, I was so nervous, hoping he would not do anything weird to frighten her away. But he did. With an autistic child you never know how they will surprise their parent next. I never thought he'd do that.
So when a child does something inappropriate, try not to jump to conclusions that something is happening at home. Invisible disablities like autism , tourettes, may explain the behaviour.
Before I had an autistic child I was not aware of this, and would have wrongly judged the parent. Autism has opened my eyes and opened my judgements.
Hope this helps.
me:BGF, 54, American immigrant. one son. me and my ex get along great, the most amicable split imaginable!
him:WBF,43, Polish immigrant
together since 2006,
DDay:October28,2009,after his 3 teen kids push him to cheat with OW.
5 betrayed me