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sadone29 posted 7/6/2014 08:06 AM

My kids just had their second car accident this year. They are fine, thank God.

My nerves, though, are totally shot. Before we got the call about the accident, I was wondering if I should go back on AD's because I had another random panic attack last night. I've also been hooked up to a holter monitor because of bad heart palpitations.

I've been off the AD's for over a year. I really wanted to learn to deal with life without them, but maybe I can't.

I can't believe this happened again to them. I still have trouble riding in the car from the first one. They seem fine emotionally...more sad that their trip with their grandparents was cut short. I don't know though.

metamorphisis posted 7/6/2014 09:46 AM

(((((((((sadone29)))))))))))
I'm so glad they are ok.
I take a low dose AD for anxiety and honestly, as long as it's working I'll keep taking it. The alternative is too brutal on me and everyone in my family. I haven't had a panic attack in the 5 or 6 years I've been on them. It might be worth considering again.
It's totally normal to have this kind of reaction to your babies in a car accident. When we start living every day with overwhelming fear though, it's time to get help.
Hugs to you, I understand.

authenticnow posted 7/6/2014 10:01 AM

(((sadone)))

I think Meta has good advice, and I just wanted to give you a hug.

jo2love posted 7/6/2014 13:30 PM

(((sadone)))

I'm glad your children are ok.

LosferWords posted 7/6/2014 13:32 PM

((((sadone))))

sadone29 posted 7/6/2014 17:59 PM

Thanks everyone.

We ended up having a great day with the kids. I'm pretty tired of this impending doom feeling I've had for months now. I think I'll go see someone this week.

simplydevastated posted 7/7/2014 07:16 AM

I'm glad your kids are OK. That is scary. Can I ask who was at fault in the accidents? I'm asking because of it was the other driver then they can chalk it up to them being a bad driver magnet. If they were at fault maybe you could look into getting them into a driving course that's more intensive than a driver's ed course. That might help them get their skills up to where they should be and then it will also help you and your nerves.

Just a thought.

(((HUGS)))

tushnurse posted 7/7/2014 07:49 AM

I am a firm believer that raising teens is one of the most stressful things we go through as parents. They are becoming independent people whose choices really do impact the rest of their lives. At this point all we can do is remind them to make the good choices we have taught them all along to make.

Doesn't make less scary, and overwhelming. I think if you are having panic attacks and palpitations it's time to consider going back on AD's. If your dr said wow your blood pressure, and cholesterol are high, we need you take medicine, and work on diet and exercise, you would most likely take it. The same goes with AD's. If you are so stressed out that you can't sleep, and take care of yourself right then you should take something to make life a bit more bearable, because if you don't you most definitely will need more pills for BP, heart, cholesterol, sleep, reflux.....I could go on and on. If stress is high it negatively effects your body, your entire body.

Call your Dr, and have a chat about it, after your holter test is done.

sadone29 posted 7/7/2014 08:04 AM

Thank you both!

My kids are both under 10, so they were the passengers (in both, of course! lol).

The first accident, it was really bad weather. We were going out to a b-day party. I was concerned and thought we should cancel. We decided to go. H drove with caution, but hit a patch of ice. He was found not at fault. We live in a fairly small city and there were 50 other accidents that day. We really should have stayed home. Lesson learned!

Yesterday they were with their grandparents. Clear highway, no traffic. A poor deer jumped in front of them. It was my in-laws first accident.

Tushnurse, I did the holter monitor a while ago! They only managed to record one pvc. Since then, I've cut out all stimulants (coffee and alcohol being the big ones) and they have improved dramatically. But I still am having overall anxiety, so I am going to chat with the doctor this week. My dad had a heart attack a few weeks ago. That's when my parents told me stories of heart disease in others. I didn't know to the extent it ran in the family! I'm pretty young still, but have to start taking my health seriously.

[This message edited by sadone29 at 8:10 AM, July 7th (Monday)]

sadone29 posted 7/7/2014 08:06 AM

And I got about ten hours of sleep last night (after having around 3 the night before because the kids kept waking up from excitement about going on their vacation with their grandparents).

It feels good to be rested! And I'm feeling more grateful than anxious at the moment.

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