"Whatever you want to call it with a massage parlor girl?"
You call it: unprotected sex with a prostitute
Until you can wrap your brain around that fact, your healing will be delayed.
I'm sorry that you are dealing with this, ww, but I don't know how much support you'll find here after some of your nasty comments. Specifically, a few weeks ago you wrote:
"That being said, I wish I got more support, more sharing of stories, and less of the haters and bitter people on this website. Some of you are toxic."
Totally uncalled for, and couldn't be further from the truth. You received excellent advice, delivered with compassion, from some of the more seasoned veterans of this infidelity trauma. This is the best infidelity site out there, with thousands of compassionate people who have been there, done that. There is nothing new under the sun. Your circumstance is quite common, actually, and cheaters pretty much follow the same script. The advice you received was spot on, and nobody on this website is a bitter, toxic hater. It is a very well moderated site.
That being said, if you test positive for an STD, are you still going to believe that a prostitute started a blowjob on your husband and then he stopped her, one time?
There is an abundance of healing information on this site if you can be open to it. Good luck to you. I hope he didn't give you something.