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yme32313 posted 7/6/2014 13:52 PM

Is it bad that I'd rather be by myself than with my H. He says some of the dumbest things that trigger all my emotions. I know he doesn't mean it but he's so dumb to say things.

Ugh! Will the triggers just stop!

karmahappens posted 7/6/2014 17:25 PM

(((hugs)))

Triggers suck, and so do stupid comments.

When it happens do you talk to him? Can you explain to him the need for him to think before he says things?

The triggers do end, eventually. It takes work to end them though, I really had to work through my triggers. I had to explain them to my husband so he understood what they meant and where they came from.

Your husband needs to want to help you through them.

KatyDo posted 7/6/2014 22:33 PM

Sometimes too you need to heal on your own, to come to terms with what has happened, without someone "messing it up" by saying stupid unhelpful things. That can be very healing - and talking to someone who does get it is good too. Healing within the relationship and on your own are both important.

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