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User Topic: Uncoupling by Diane Vaughn
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Default  Posted: 5:43 PM, July 6th (Sunday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I was wondering if any of you have read this and your thoughts on it?

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Default  Posted: 9:21 PM, August 17th (Sunday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I read this book and thought it was an insightful book. This is not an infidelity or a help you heal type of book. What this book does do is analyze intimate relationships, from their beginning through divorce, and identify the turning points in the relationship that leads to a break down. I found it useful that the analysis included both points of views when explaining the causes.

I felt this book was written more for the professional, rather than a typical couple; however, if you have already read several infidelity and relationship books, you should have no problem following this book. The book was particularly helpful to me during reconciliation because it helped confirm my marriage was back on track and we were avoiding the pitfalls that often lead to divorce.

One of the best tips I took away from this book was the concept that, "all problems in a relationship start with a secret". In other words, if you are unhappy with something about your spouse or the relationship, you choose to deal with it by complaining to someone else (your secret), rather than telling your spouse.

If you are in R, or still trying to figure out what went wrong in your marriage, then I highly recommend this book.

[This message edited by HardenMyHeart at 9:31 PM, August 17th (Sunday)]

Me: BH, Her: FWW - Long Term EA/PA
d-day: June 25, 2007
Married 33 years, Together 40 years - Reconciled

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Default  Posted: 5:09 PM, August 18th (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Thank you for the reply. I started reading it and I just couldn't get into it. I think it is probably a very good book but kind of a heavy read. I started reading, Safe People by Dr Henry Cloud and some christian, infidelity fiction books.

I think I have read every infidelity book out there. I have learned so much from all of them. I think my next one will be the book from Anne Bercht.

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